Post # 1
After sending out my save the dates, I recently received an email from a friend who has told me that she cannot make it to the wedding. I will be addressing and sending out the invites in the next two weeks and am wondering if I should still send her one, even though I know she has rsvp’d "no". That being said, I also have a limited number of invites and could use that invite to invite someone from the "B" list.
Post # 3
I’d send it anyway just in case her schedule clears up. We’re two weeks out (!!) and we’re still getting a lot of last minute, oh-now-I-can-comes.
Better to send it than risk hurting her feelings, I say. You can always write her a separate note saying you know she said she wouldn’t be able to make it, but you wanted to make sure she got formally invited regardless.
Post # 4
I had the same situation and I did not send an invite. Granted, it was to one of my bosses so it was kind of a gratuitous invite anyway, but we did not send one. But I agree with JuneBride, a note to go along with it would be nice.
Post # 5
I’m fairly certain that she won’t change her mind. She would be in for a 20 hour flight with a toddler. That being said, thanks for the advice as I’ll send her an invite with a note as you suggested!
Post # 6
I had a woman from work tell me the same thing, and said "don’t send us an invite, I know how much they cost". My initial reaction was "I don’t need RSVP’s yet!" I told my mom about it, and she said that maybe she didn’t want me to send an invite, because she thinks that an invite = a present. I wouldn’t want her to think this, but oh well, I’m still going to send an invitation!
Post # 7
I’ve had several people with pre-emptive "nos" and I only sent one of them out (sorta by accident). I have a very tight guest list as well and if they send a gift, I will definitely send a thank you card.