Pre-engagement disappointment

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Lib3ll3:  I started doing that after 4 years of dating….and then after a few times, I realized I was causing myself stress and anxiety. Just stop thinking about it – forcibly push it out of your mind! It’ll happen when the time is right – there’s no use causing yourself distress. 🙂


Plus – when it does finally happen – it will be fantastic, unexpected, and wonderful. 

Post # 4
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Simple. Screw the surprise. Ask him to give you a warning when it’s coming. He doesn’t need to tell you details, so there can still be some surprise. But that way you don’t have your heart leap every time he drops his napkin. Problem solved.

Post # 5
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My FI and I talked. It was really simple, I asked him one day if he needed a timeline for himself, as I know how he is…he’s one of those guys who needs a self placed time frame of getting stuff done. He placed the end of March as the time frame and it made both of us more relaxed, knowing that it would happen. Don’t be a nag about it, just bring it up as a topic of conversation once…have the timeline conversation and then let the timeframe happen. Don’t bring it up again.

Post # 6
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

He already gave you a timeline. He said you would be engaged before you were living together for a year. Give him that time without constantly setting yourself up for disappointment.

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