Post # 1
My FI and I have decided to take a pre-martial couse. I will be a weekend course and is offered though a councilling center in the city. When I told people that my FI and I were going to take this course I got a lot of werid looks and alot of ‘whys’. My FI and I decided a long time ago that statistically the odds of us lasting are not in our favor so we want to do everything possilbe to be as prepared and sucessful at our marriage.
Is anyone else taking a marriage prep course either though your church or somewhere else? When you told people how did they react?
Post # 3
We’ll be participating in pre-marital counseling through the church. I am actually very excited about it. No one’s been surprised by it yet. I thought it was pretty normal!
Post # 4
We just finished ours yesterday. We loved having the one on one time with our pastor. It had brought FI and I so much closer on so many levels. We were able to lay things out on the table and tackle them with another party helping direct a better way to do it than we would have.
We have learned so much about marriage and love and fighting and are SO blessed for this opportunity, alot of people dont get this chance.
I highly recommend it. We are proud to say that our preacher said we are ready!!!!
Post # 5
we are definitely going to do it and i’m actually looking forward to it. we are doing a group session and also a session with just us and our pastor.
people would never question you getting prepared for the wedding, so i dont understand why they would question you preparing for the marriage.
Post # 6
We had to do it to get married in the church. For us it was cool to see how great our communication is and how we agreed on so many levels. It was interesting to see other couples who never talked about money or family issue react when certain topics came up.
Post # 7
Everyone I know has pretty much been required to do it. We were required. Thought it was pointless and was glad when it was over.
Post # 8
We are doing pre-Cana, but it’s a requirement in our church (Catholic).
I think maybe the “why’s” are coming from people who assume counseling is only done in response to “problems.” What they really are asking, is “What problems are you having?” I guess it doesn’t occur to them that you are just doing it as marriage preparation…being proactive rather than reactive.