Post # 1
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE…whatever you do…do NOT skip this part of your planning process. It has totally changed the way we communicate. We had the best sessions ever! We joined the group at our church. It started with just getting a root foundation in our relationship with Christ first…and then focused on our relationship with each other! The sessions were in a group form. The five couples have joined a small group and we now meet monthly for fellowship. So what Ed and I have only been to two meetings. WE LOVE IT.
Admittedly, I didn’t really think we needed it or that we would learn anything new. WELL WAS I WRONG!!! Not only did it help to grow our relationship but it also helped us develop relationships with a great group of couples that are doing this thing the right way as well. We learned that we are not the only ones going through typcial relationship woes.
So again…take the time out to go to some sort of counseling. Allow someone into your space so that you can air out all issues. It’s SOOOOOOO worth it.
Here’s our certificate. We’s OFFICIAL!
Did you go to counseling?
Post # 3
FI’s dad is a reverend and he’s officiating so we’ve been doing some counseling sessions with him. It’s probably a much more laidback kind of counseling since he’s family, but it’s been really helpful, getting us to talk about things we wouldn’t otherwise consider. We’ve been using a workbook called “Before you say ‘I do'” and it’s been really fun and enlightening.
Post # 4
LIKE! our marriage prep was one of the most memorible parts of being engaged, i really enjoyed it and recommend it to everyone.
Post # 5
@iheartnerds: Oh that’s great to be able to do it with his father!
@totheislnds: Definitely a memorable time…miss it too! 🙂 lol
Post # 6
Fiance and I finished our 6 week class last night! Such a great experience, we both learned A TON. Even when you think you have talked about it all before, you learn so much! So glad we did this with our pastor! 🙂
Post # 7
I definitely agree! I think that people get so caught up in the wedding planning that they forget about the most important part- preparing for the marriage. We did a weekend trip and even though I was scared at first, it turned out to be really helpful.
Post # 8
Im so happy to see so many brides doing this! It is sooo important, and really helps bring you closer to your fiance!
Post # 9
@faye0314: SOOOOO TRUE!!!! People focus on the wedding and NOT the marriage!!
Post # 10
Our counseling sessions were awesome. It helped us to talk about the rest of our lives together and how we can most successfully move through the years as husband and wife, in a Godly relationship. It also brought us much closer to our pastor, making our wedding ceremony with him even more special.
Post # 11
Yay! I love this thread. I am really looking forward to going through pre-marital counseling with my fiancé. 🙂
Post # 12
@Gemstone: Yes you really get to know the person marrying you so they can have something to say about you and the two of you as a couple!
Post # 13
I SOOOO want premarital counseling! My pastor is kind of young- and my fiances dad is also a pastor but …well it would be kind of wierd as its his dad and all…I want counseling from a really old pastor- you know like the kind thATS BEEN MARRIED FOR ever! AND HAS SEEN IT ALL! Anyone know of a wise postor/bishop who does pre marital counseling in northern NJ area?
Post # 14
I wish we were able to do formal marriage counseling, but we are in different countries right now–and will be for the 6 months leading up to our wedding. We read “Things I wish I’d known before we got married” by Gary Chapman together and did a lot of the exercizes. That was an excellent discussion starter. We also took the Prepare-Enrich assessment, but we didn’t do any sessions with a pastor/other person. We just looked at the results and discussed them.
Did any of you read a book during your premarital counseling that you would recommend?
Post # 15
Gary Chapman’s books are AMAZING!!!!!!!!!
Post # 16
We loved ours. There’s a family ministry in our area that’s run by a deacon at our church and his wife (she’s a psychologist which makes the whole process even better). There was large group (6 couples) and individual time as well as a weekend retreat so they covered a variety of different ways of learning.
My parents insisted that this was the first thing we do before we did any major planning because of what they went through with their counseling.