Post # 1
When I first started planning I knew I wanted counseling. I wanted to be geared w/ everything possible to be a great wife and have a prosperous marriage. Because my fiance and I were not w/ a church at that time I was on the look out for ministers that could perform the ceremony. I found out then that the pre counseling was not required. I pondered the idea of not having counseling at all and the fact that it was cheaper. We then found a pastor (a family friend) whom my fiance firmly stated he wanted to marry us. We are required to do counseling w/ him and I’m glad that we are. I have learned so much in the last 8 weeks and it has given so much insight on our relationship that will better our union. I am so happy we made this choice. We have been together for 12 years and we are learning new things about each other each session.
Are you taking pre-marital counseling? Do you love the outcome?
Post # 3
Absolutely! We even opted to go to a counselor before we got engaged to make sure we were well suited for marriage and were addressing big issues before we jumped into wedding planning. I wouldn’t trade our times with our counselor for anything – she has given us so many tools that have allowed us to work through hard issues and have a healthy relationship. Worth every minute and every penny!
Post # 4
We did, though with some friends of our, not through our church (which would have cost $200 — eep!). It lasted 14 weeks (we actually had our last couple sessions AFTER the wedding, which was even better) and was really great. I’d highly recommend it.
Post # 5
It was required through our church, but we were SO glad we did it! It definitely brings up a lot of issues that many couples don’t think to discuss before marriage (we had already discussed most of them, but it helped us to re-hash it all). I think it’s a great experience and resource that couples should take advantage of if they can!
Post # 6
Our church requires everyone to go to premarriage counseling before they will marry you. At first I was dreading this aspect of the process, but after it was all said and done I was glad we did it. We already had a very strong relationship, so there were no big issues we needed to discuss or anything but it just kind of forces you to talk about your relationship. For us it was great because it gave us time to focus on just the two of us and it just made us even more excited to officially become married to one another.
Post # 7
our school has free couples counseling. so we’ll definitely be going.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park
I’m a firm believer in examining the relationship more closely, either through counseling or a marriage workshop like the TwoGether In Texas program I blogged about. It really helped us learn how to argue in a healthy way, which is awesome! I still have to remind him of the rules a lot (no name-calling, no generalizations, etc.), but one 8 hour session has improved our relationship so much that I’d love to go back and do a refresher!