Post # 1
Did you get a pre-nup? I was talking to a client today and he was adament I get one! SO makes more than me, and our families have the same wealth, about. Did any bees get a pre-nup? Do you know someone who didn’t and regrets it?
Post # 3
@Washingtonian: We didn’t have one. DH and I had been together since high school, so 13 years when we finally got married. Even though he makes a lot more than me, everything we have we built together. However, I am most definitely not against them. I think it’s incredibly reasonable to protect yourself, your assets, and your family.
Look, no one wants to go into their marriage thinking about divorce. Everyone says “I’ll never get divorced, this is forever”. Unfortunately, we all know that forever doesn’t happen for everyone. I’ve seen the nicest most sane people turn into vengeful bitches during a divorce. Case in point, my mother.
Post # 4
My opinion is that pre-nups are made to protect the individuals in the event of divorce. When I get married, I am becoming part of a pair, in every aspect of life, forever. Divorce is not an option for us. Otherwise, we wouldn’t be getting married!
(Of course, right now neither of us have anything to “protect”, LOL.)
Post # 5
I can’t get one b/c of my religion. But I think for some people they’re a good idea. Other times i think it’s because one or both people are greedy. Depends on the couple.
Post # 6
I think prenups are a smart choice if one or more spouses have assets to protect. I told my FI I’d be fine if he wanted a prenup because he has a decent inheritance. He opted not to, but I wouldn’t have faulted him.
And no, I don’t think prenups mean the couple is assuming they will divorce. It means they are realistic that things could turn for the worst down the road, and they are taking precautions in case that happens.
Post # 7
@Washingtonian: In comparison to my DH, I brought an overwhelming majority of the assets into our marriage. However, I did not want or ask for a pre-nuptial agreement.
Post # 8
I didn’t vote because none of the options applied. Personally I’ll be getting a pre-nup. It’s up to each couple but it’s just part of the whole process IMO.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t be able to marry someone who wanted to carefully craft an easy exit strategy. If FH wants a divorce he can be damn sure it’ll be a long painful expensive and difficult process
Post # 10
We don’t have one but I think they’re a good thing if one or both partners have lots of assets at stake prior to the marriage. It’s not like all prenups say “You get nothing!” There’s a reason why it’s recommended that both parties have their own counsel to make sure it’s a fair agreement. I would have signed one, provided I felt it was fair, if our situation would have called for one.
Post # 11
My husband and I seriously considered a prenup- right now he has assets, while I have student loans and expect to inherit some money. However, in our state these particular things are considered separate property anyway, so it didn’t make sense to go with a prenup.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
I think it’s kind of ignorant to not get one unless there are no assets involved at the time of marriage, or you’ve been together for a really long time prior to marriage (like 10+ years). Even in the second case I’d do it. No one thinks they’ll get a divorce, but no one knows 100% for sure, either.
Post # 13
I think they definitely have their place. For average assests, meh, I think a prenup won’t help much more than divorce laws. When it comes to family businesses I completely understand their use.
Post # 14
I think it depends on the couple. If you are bringing a lot of assests with you to the marriage (family business, inheritance, etc) I can understand wanting to protect your interests.
Post # 15
I used to have no problem with prenups, but someone said something to me a few months ago that completely changed my opinion. He said something along the lines of “prenups are like putting to paper that you believe there’s a chance your marriage won’t work.” I think it’s normal to have doubts, but it’s not okay to put them on paper. Personally I think marriage means working through anything and that will be my policy once I get married. Except domestic abuse, affairs, etc.
Post # 16
@Washingtonian: We have a prenup. I have family assest/inheritance that we want to stay in the family. It is an insurance policy and not a declaration that I think our marriage is doomed. Shit happens and sometimes the person you married changes or turns out to be not the person you think they are.
I don’t think I am going to have a car accident but I still have car insurance.