Post # 1
Has anyone had a wedding reception at The Candlewood Inn in the past year to year-and-a-half?
I booked my wedding here, signed the contract, and am now being blind-sided by their demanding that we give them a dinner selection count prior to our wedding! I have never been to a wedding where the guests are asked to make their dinner selections when they RSVP to the event. I am wondering if this is a new policy that The Candlewood Inn is trying to enforce.
Not only have our invitations already been ordered, so I could not include the menu selection on the response card if I wanted, but I think it is EXTREMELY tacky to pre-order dinner selections.
Any insight, advise, etc is appreciated.
Post # 3
It’s very common in my circle of friends and family to ask for your entree selection on the invitation. It’s also very common that the venue requires a meal count prior to your event since they won’t know how many meals to provide otherwise in my area.
Post # 4
Hi, im also having my wedding at the Candlewood inn and yes I was surprised when they asked me the same thing. I informed them that I already sent the invitations and i wished someone would have told us about this ahead of time.
Post # 5
It’s a new policy so that they will make according to specifications. Inconvenient for the bride but not for them so they don’t over-buy food. don’t make this your problem. It’s their problem.
Post # 6
They should of told you this when you went for your food selection. They made it known to us that we had to have a head count 2 weeks before the wedding. So we put it on the invites.. I didn’t find it inconvinent, you don’t even need to know who is getting what. They go around to tables.
(And yes Candlewood has been a pain in my tucus, this just wasn’t)
Post # 7
It’s not that uncommon to ask for dinner selection when you RSVP… At least fancier weddings tend to ask for that 🙂
Post # 8
Its not uncommon at all. Most venues require a count of who is ordering what meal option prior to the reception, especially if there is a plated meal rather than the buffet.
Post # 9
Pre-ordering your meal for a reception is very common. I have had to do so with many weddings I have attended and I don’t feel it is tacky or rude to be asked, not at all. How else can a caterer properly prepare an adequate amount of food for your guests? Would you not think it was rude for people to walk around and take your guests’ orders with a pad of paper? I can’t even imagine that.
I do think they are in the wrong for not telling you this requirement in advance although I probably would have asked considering it is a sit down meal.
In your situation I might print up a little card to send to the people that RSVP yes and ask them their food choices at that time, it is better than nothing.
Post # 10
@cgdnyc: We are having our reception there in October, and while they did tell us about the pre-ordering thing when we picked our menu back in Feb, we just found out through the website that they changed their entire menu! So now we have ordered our invitations with the old menu choices already. I spoke to them about this and they said they can provide the old menu options still, which is fine, but I wish they would have told us that they were revising their whole menu and that there would be some better options available! So just a heads up in case this affects you also!