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maybe they were trying to do something cute and different. Was their wedding traditional or a little quirky? They should have at least signed their own names. haha.
Right?!? I thought I was crazy. The funniest part about it was that I received the thank yous for the two june weddings I attended THE SAME DAY - one of which was THAT monstrosity and the other was from my friend (I was a BM in her wedding) and it was a handwritten note that took up both sides of the card and was like SO sweet and thoughtful. AND both she and her hubby signed it. It was like apples and (rotten) oranges.
Did it have a kid's birthday party theme printed on it? I've only ever seen those for kids. Wow.
I could see them trying to be fun/quirky/different with this - I've seen similar things like that with rsvp cards and such ... that might also rub people the wrong way. It's kind of cute - though I would have at least hand-signed the names!!
I agree that thank you notes should be hand-written. It just seems more genuine that way and it's definately more personal.
Maybe they are just extremely busy though, I dunno, but...the wedding was in JUNE? That seems like a LONG time to take to send a TYC. That's what I'd be the most irritated about.
I sent mine out the next week...
I don't know all the wedding etiquette rules though, so maybe I'm an exception.
I wouldn't be TOO pissed though, at least they did aknowledge your gift somehow. I can't stand it when people don't say thank you at all. That bugs me a lot.
I'm not like actively pissed off at them about it, I just think it's kind of a lame cop-out. They probably were trying to be cute and quirky with it, but it was a FAIL in my book. If they did it right after the wedding and just wanted to get them out to people right away I would be more inclined to say it's fine, but it's been six months.
Oh it's like a thank you note Madlib... how... _________ (insert sarcastic adjective here)
Um, I kinda think it's worse than sending NO THANK YOU at all! And i always think a thank you is better than no thank you but this takes the cake! It's definitely late for a June thank you card. I mean, really....a fail in my book, too!
You should write back an email:
Glad you liked the ____. We had _____ at your wedding
And fill in the blank =]
How hard would it have been to just use it as a template and write that out? That's worse than not sending a TY.
Kitty - we got one of those thank you notes too! It was pre-printed with just a space for our names though. So all they had to do was put our names, and then sign it. Just a generic, printed "thanks for your wedding gift! We really appreciate it." I was a little offended that I went through the trouble of even picking out a nice card for the couple!
Eek! I bet they thought they were being cute. I gave a similar card to FI once for Valentine's day with lots of different nicknames and ways to say "I love you" that you could check off. -- Dear Schmoopy, I am completely head over heels for you -- You get my drift? However, for a wedding thank you note, this is entirely inappropriate. I guess this couple didn't see the distinction :-(
The boxes sound really insulting. And the fact it took them six months to check off boxes..
I think some people just entirely miss the point of thank you notes.
That's terrible! If they weren't going to send a proper thank you note, then they shouldn't have bothered to send one out at all.
My fiance and I are going on our honeymoon immediately after the wedding for two weeks and then once we get back, we're going to try to write 10 thank you cards a day and then we will mail out all of the thank you notes at the same time - do you think that sending out you thank you cards a month after the wedding is poor form? Is it better to hand write your thank you notes in advance of the wedding and drop them in the mail shoot before leaving for the honeymoon?
For my engagement party, I opened all of the presents that evening once I got home and was able to send out the thank you notes within two or three days.
I think thank you notes 1 month after the wedding is some sort of record.
I don't think you should pre-write though. You want it to be sincere.
I was MOH in a very close friend's wedding this summer (and she will be my MOH) and she typed all her thank you notes. Albeit, there was no "check box" and her notes were very personal, which made it much more palatable. She actually did a gorgeous job of printing the inside portion of the card on gold card stock with a scallopped edge, which she then mounted inside the thank you cards. Basically, she chose to type because she doesn't have the nicest handwriting.
The point is that, while I agree the check box is not acceptable and entirely impersonal, I think typed thank you cards can be okay when done nicely...even if they don't conform to traditional thank you card conventions.
@hergreenapples - I think that what your friend did is completely different. She just avoided having hand cramps forever, but she actually put some thought into her thank you notes and personalized them. You could totally tell that the thank you note that I (and probably Kitty got as well) were just generic, short cut ways of trying to get them done faster with little personalization. Maybe they thought they were being cute, but if I took the time to pick out a gift for you, the least you can do is send me a meaningful thank you note.
i got one of those when i was little, from my friend having a new kids on the block birthday party. she handed them out with the goody bags, she was already finished because she didn't have to personalize them. even when i was little i knew it was wrong! (or maybe i was just upset that i had to take the time to write all of mine!)
My FI and I scraped together $50 for a gift to send to my cousin since his wedding was out of state and we didn't have the money to attend. They sent us a handwritten note about a month later that was two lines and read "Thanks so much for your gift! We're going to use it often". This was nice gesture, and I had no problem with it. Then I saw the identical note they'd sent my parents...sigh.
It definitely influenced how I'm going to be writing my thank you's.
@hergreenapples - Yeah, I don't have any issue with someone typing them if they have poor handwriting as long as they personalize the note. It sounds like what your friend did was very nice and thoughtful.
This is terrible. I would be so annoyed if I got this kind of note, ESPECIALLY six months later. Ugh.
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OK, I just received a thank you note from a wedding I attended in early June and it was a pre-printed card that looked like this:
Dear _______________________
Thank you for the ____________________
We will: [a few boxes to check for different uses, etc.]
And then their names printed on the bottom.
I've never seen anything like this before and to be honest, I didn't like it. I think it's an etiquette faux pas. You handwrite a thank you note; you don't fill in a line with someone's name and the gift they bought and then check a box.
Just a PSA to anyone thinking of doing this - it WILL rub people the wrong way. I would honestly have rather not received a thank you note at all. Like, way to make it abundantly clear that you don't want to write thank yous. Yeah, OK, fine. The task sucks and it takes a lot of time, but do it right or don't do it at all.