Post # 1
OK, I just received a thank you note from a wedding I attended in early June and it was a pre-printed card that looked like this:
Thank you for the ____________________
We will: [a few boxes to check for different uses, etc.]
And then their names printed on the bottom.
I’ve never seen anything like this before and to be honest, I didn’t like it. I think it’s an etiquette faux pas. You handwrite a thank you note; you don’t fill in a line with someone’s name and the gift they bought and then check a box.
Just a PSA to anyone thinking of doing this – it WILL rub people the wrong way. I would honestly have rather not received a thank you note at all. Like, way to make it abundantly clear that you don’t want to write thank yous. Yeah, OK, fine. The task sucks and it takes a lot of time, but do it right or don’t do it at all.
Post # 4
Yeah… that’s just beyond bad. I’d be pissed.
Post # 5
maybe they were trying to do something cute and different. Was their wedding traditional or a little quirky? They should have at least signed their own names. haha.
Post # 6
Right?!? I thought I was crazy. The funniest part about it was that I received the thank yous for the two june weddings I attended THE SAME DAY – one of which was THAT monstrosity and the other was from my friend (I was a BM in her wedding) and it was a handwritten note that took up both sides of the card and was like SO sweet and thoughtful. AND both she and her hubby signed it. It was like apples and (rotten) oranges.
Post # 7
Did it have a kid’s birthday party theme printed on it? I’ve only ever seen those for kids. Wow.
Post # 9
I could see them trying to be fun/quirky/different with this – I’ve seen similar things like that with rsvp cards and such … that might also rub people the wrong way. It’s kind of cute – though I would have at least hand-signed the names!!
Post # 10
I agree that thank you notes should be hand-written. It just seems more genuine that way and it’s definately more personal.
Maybe they are just extremely busy though, I dunno, but…the wedding was in JUNE? That seems like a LONG time to take to send a TYC. That’s what I’d be the most irritated about.
I sent mine out the next week…
I don’t know all the wedding etiquette rules though, so maybe I’m an exception.
I wouldn’t be TOO pissed though, at least they did aknowledge your gift somehow. I can’t stand it when people don’t say thank you at all. That bugs me a lot.
Post # 11
I’m not like actively pissed off at them about it, I just think it’s kind of a lame cop-out. They probably were trying to be cute and quirky with it, but it was a FAIL in my book. If they did it right after the wedding and just wanted to get them out to people right away I would be more inclined to say it’s fine, but it’s been six months.
Post # 12
Oh it’s like a thank you note Madlib… how… _________ (insert sarcastic adjective here)
Post # 13
Um, I kinda think it’s worse than sending NO THANK YOU at all! And i always think a thank you is better than no thank you but this takes the cake! It’s definitely late for a June thank you card. I mean, really….a fail in my book, too!
You should write back an email:
Glad you liked the ____. We had _____ at your wedding
And fill in the blank =]
Post # 15
How hard would it have been to just use it as a template and write that out? That’s worse than not sending a TY.
Post # 16
Kitty – we got one of those thank you notes too! It was pre-printed with just a space for our names though. So all they had to do was put our names, and then sign it. Just a generic, printed “thanks for your wedding gift! We really appreciate it.” I was a little offended that I went through the trouble of even picking out a nice card for the couple!