Post # 1
Hi all I am sending a pre message on Facebook to all of my FI’s family. the first half is mainly directed at out of state fam and the P.s.s. part at the end is directed to well, it’ll be obvious, and I need to know if it sound appropriate. especially the last part->
(FI) and I have officially set the date for our wedding! It will be on Saturday March 26, 2011 in Southern California. Please let us know if you can make it that weekend and we will send you the official Save-the-Date postcard followed by the invitation. We look forward to hearing back soon.
(our first names)
Ps. Please let ******, *****, ***** and **** know for us since I do not have their Facebook or other contact info. Thanks! 🙂
P.s.s. As much as we would love for everyone to attend the wedding, the venue is a Historic site and is not exactly child-proof, so as such we have decided there will be no children at the event. We apologize if this will inconvienence anyone.
Post # 3
Personally, I think it’s a little too soon to expect people to know if they’re coming to your wedding, especially w/ only a pre-std.
That last part’s a little iffy. While you’re trying to be honest & up front, it may cause unnecessary drama so early in the game.
Post # 4
I think this is sort of an unnecessary step. this is exactly what Save-The-Date Cards are for…to let people know when your date is some time in advance so they can decide whether they will attend. why not just send out the Save-The-Date Cards now?
Post # 5
You’re kind of asking your guests to RSVP before you even send a STD, much less an invitation. I wouldn’t do it. After you send your Save-The-Date Cards, people close to you who know they won’t be able to make it will probably tell you so. Sending this message is almost saying that you don’t want to spend the money giving people Save-The-Date Cards and invites if you know they won’t come, which I’m sure was not what you were really getting at, haha!
I think you should just casually announce on FB via a status update or something that you’ve set an official date. Lots of people will probably comment/contact you after that with responses, but you shouldn’t expect anyone to commit one way or another at this point.
Post # 6
I don’t get it. Why are you sending out what is essentially an invitation to receive a save the date? I’m guessing that your FI’s family is large and you’re using this as a way to have the potential invitees cut the guestlist themselves so that you don’t have to hurt anyone’s feelings? What happens if someone says no now and finds out in January (when the invites are supposed to go out) that they can make it? Have a “B” list if you must, but IMO if these people are important enough to you and Fiance that you want to know now if they’re available to attend the wedding, they’re important enough to receive Save-The-Date Cards and invites. I also think that it’s way too soon to play the “no kids” card — there’s no way to address the issue that won’t upset people during the save-the-date/invite process much less the pre-save-the-date.
Post # 7
thanks. for the help bees, it was FI’s idea really. and it’s only being sent to people on his side. we were just concerened that people may decide to take a vacation around then and he thought that those who may choose to take a vacation, might book stuff before they get the stds. so he was just suggesting to do this pre-message just in case. I know it sounds a little crazy and silly, but internet IS faster, and we still wanna send save the dates to them.
Post # 8
That’s cool – I can see what he wants to achive but I definitely wouldn’t ask them to confirm that they can come first. Perhaps use this facebook message as a way to get your date out there, perhaps confirm postal address but dont ask for anything from them yet. Otherwise you will end up with people RSVPing three times, now, maybe for the STD and then for the actual invite – its overkill!!
Post # 9
I already sent it out…but that was before I thought anyone would have posted anything..also I’m not asking them to rsvp on for the postcards. it’s more like a momento.