Post # 1
Haha, I should be institutionalized for the crazed lists I am constantly making. I think this last one takes the cake, though.
I seriously just created a Word document entitled “Pre-Baby Checklist” that includes all of the things I want my husband and I to do before having a baby…complete with pretty fonts, etc. Ridiculous! I feel like my list is a little unrealistic though. I have several things on there that probably are just not feasible in the next five-ish years (when we are thinking we may start trying)… Just curious– what things are on your to-do list before trying to conceive? I put a *few* of mine for voting purposes, but leave others in the comments! 🙂
Post # 3
We bought a home and we took a big final trip and the other thing on my list was a minimum of 75K in savings. We didn’t quite make our goal on the last one, so I’m a little nervous financially but very excited. And we bought an SUV just a few months ago. I had so many lists and budgets and now that it’s happening I may have missed a few things but am happy at where we are in general.
Post # 4
I don’t care about owning a home, we already have a family vehicle (Honda CRV – they even have seatbelts specifically for baby carriers!) I would like some money in the bank and a solid career plan, but mostly, I’d like to take a 4-6 month trip with Fiance, we’ve discussed backpacking Europe, etc. So, mostly travel. However, we both feel strongly that we’d like to take one family and one “alone” trip each year…
Post # 5
@roxy821: Yeah, I put $50k down originally, but now I think that that may be too low for us as well!
@Miss Orchard: That’s great! Time alone is so crucial, IMO. My parents took a big trip alone each year & as a child I remember wondering why they were leaving us with our grandparents. But now I totally understand… They had an awesome marriage, and I think alot of it had to do with all the time they took to cultivate that. And, we still went on a vacation as a family, so it worked out.
Post # 6
I haven’t written it down but Darling Husband and I have had this conversation. We just bought a DSLR and we already have a family friendly vehicle. We’re about to go house hunting and the future baby will play into our decision. I do want to go on a girls trip (MOHs bachelorette party next year), a Napa trip and a cool international trip (Safari or hiking to Machu Picchu).
I don’t see how we’ll have 50k saved but I do want the car and DHs student loans paid off before we start trying. I also need to finish business school and get into great shape before we start trying.
Post # 7
OMG, you think just like me! I’ve been telling Fiance that we need to go on big trips and do crazy, slightly wreckless adventurous things BEFORE kiddos. You know, live it up a bit while we can as just the 2 of us. 🙂 We’ve been discussing a trip to Ireland next year with his family, and I want to go skiing in Colorado with friends too. Once babies come the vacations will be a bit more relaxing and close to home for quite a few years.
Post # 8
@Annie624- My parents had nothing in the bank when they started having kids and rented. So I just keep telling myself of all these people who were able to make it buy with a lot less cushion.
Post # 9
Buying a home is really the only thing I for sure wanted to do before we have kids (and we close in a couple of weeks and are still a few years out from TTC).
All of the other things, we can do with kids so why rush!?!
Post # 10
@LGenz: OH! Getting into shape is also a must!! Going on my list 🙂 I’ve gained that newlywed weight in the past several months!
@Mrs.LilyLunaLove: EXACTLY! You have to do all those crazy things now!!
@roxy821: So true. My sister (who has three little ones) always tells me– You can worry about it all you want, but somehow it works out. So that is kinda comforting. 🙂
@Mrs.KMM: That’s true. I do plan on traveling quite a bit with our kids! But there are some slightly reckless things that I just don’t imagine feeling comfortable doing once kids are in the picture, I guess.
Post # 11
Buying a home and fun adventure/international travel is on my list, but everything else I feel is pretty negotiable. I’ve heard so many people say that if you wait until you’re completely ready (financially and otherwise) for kids, you’d probably never do it!
It would be nice to have 50k in the bank, but I’m not sure it’s a realistic goal for us–yes, kids are expensive, but lots of people make do with a lot less and I’m sure we could too.
Post # 12
I don’t care about owning a home really, because the NYC real estate market is crazy and it would not be feasible for us without a ridiculous down payment. We are going to go on one more huge trip (Thailand) and I want to go to Vegas once or twice more. Definitely going to run at least one more marathon (maybe 2!) and that’s about all that’s on my list right now.
Post # 13
I haven’t really thought about it, but I also know it’s going to be a long journey for both me and Fiance. I think it’s a good idea to have a pre-baby list though.
One of things I’d like to do pre-baby is to travel a bit. I never had the chance growing up to ever go on vacations.
Post # 14
Our checklist is a fairly practical one I think.
Fiance finishes school
Fiance finds a job in his field
Buy a house – our current home is too small for a child. We literally have no where we could put one. Except the living room?
Take a trip to Europe.
Obviously the last one is just for fun. But that’s my list.
Post # 15
Holy crap, I feel super dumb asking this, but is it typical to have THAT much in savings before having a baby?! I am debt-free and working on building my savings and 401k – but aside from saving for a condo/house down payment, I don’t think we’ll have even CLOSE to that much in the bank for years and years and years.
Our bucket list includes Fiance finishing law school (and starting his career), going on a trip to Napa, and hopefully some other travels, but nothing else too huge.
Post # 16
I want to own a home and probably travel more. I also want to be able to SAH, so Fiance needs to be making much more money.