Post # 1
it’s 11 weeks until my wedding and I feel so low, I don’t feel excited at all, everything is pretty much done but still got to make favours, decorations etc and other things. I had a massive argument with my Mum a few weeks back as she was being really controlling over the wedding and recently my partners Grandmother shouted at him over the guest list. Both things ahve been resolved now but I think to be honest we both feel humilaited, tired and more looking forward to our honeymoon than our wedding. I just feel so many people have been unreasonable and put unnessary pressure on us. Its other people that have caused our stress and I just feel sad and cant seem to shake off the low mood, I was so happy and excited a few months back and now I just feel as though I’ve just upset everyone. Any other bees been through this and does the excitement come back, is the day worth it, just feel like crying.
Post # 3
@Hermoine: Ugh, that sucks but try not to let it get to you! Weddings bring out the crazy in people. You just have to remember that your wedding is about you and your Fiance celebrating your love, nothing else really matters.
Post # 4
@Hermoine: I feel the same way and my wedding is only 18 days away. Work has been ridiculous they fired all my co-workers so I am doing the work of 3 people and getting made to feel bad because I am taking off for my wedding and honeymoon. My wonderful grandpa has been in and out of the hospital. Oh and to put a cherry on the sundae my fiance’s crazy sister sent him a string of text messages the other day telling him how I am awful and controlling and he shouldnt marry me! I am trying not to dwell on it but it is really bringing me down.
Post # 5
First of all, huge internet hugs. Second, this is completely normal.
I learned something very important during wedding planning and the event: the dynamics that are in your day to day life with those you love, often get magnified with a wedding. You seeing that people are unreasonable might be the BEST thing that ever happened to your relationship with them because you might realize, hey I don’t want to ever continue this dynamic with my mom/grandma/sis in law so what can I do to change that? This is a great time to take note of what is no longer working in these relationships and let it go.
Also what I’m hearing is how you and your future husband are really bonding and supporting each other in the face of all of this and that is HUGE! It’s awesome! That IS marriage, and you’re doing it! Try telling each other that it’s Us vs. Them, even if you don’t really mean it like that, try it, and see if it bolsters your attitude and makes you giggle. This is what it’s all about, forging that bond with your partner and shifting your bond with your family.
And @krstino1012 frankly, his sister may just be upset that her bond with him is changing. If you feel up to it, call her and talk to her about it, get it out in the air and ask her what’s really up. If not, let him diffuse it. If she’s really mentally unbalanced crazy, just remember that what she’s saying is coming through that crazy filter.
Post # 6
@Filmnikita: Thankyou for your reply, it really helped me and I’ve been feeling a bit better the last couple of days, hopefully i’m coming out the other side : )