(Closed) pre wedding fighting

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We did and it was all down to family causing us loads of stress. Take a deep breath and try to get a day together where you don’t do anything for the wedding – just take some time to remember why you’re getting married to each other and show each other how much love you both have for the other. It’ll be ok.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@somerset- I’m with you. I cannot wait for the wedding to be here and over so the petty stupid fights can stop and we can get back to our normal lives.

Post # 6
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140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It will stop after the ceremony. Promise!

Post # 7
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2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think that stupid “nothing” fights (as I like to call them) happen when you are faced with an increased amount stress. My FI and I just moved this past weekend and we were fighting over the DUMBEST things the whole time. It did make me sad, but we both knew it was because we were stressed out about moving and not because we suddenly weren’t compatible anymore or because we didn’t love each other or couldn’t get along.

So YES. I say it is deff only because you and your FI are probly stressing about the wedding — it sucks, but I think it’s totally normal!

Try to take a time out together. Go on a date and do something fun where you don’t talk about the wedding. I’m sure that’s easier said than done — especially since you are so close to the wedding (yay!), but it’s good to take the time to reconnect with your FI during this stressful (but exciting!) time.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wedding planning can be so stressful. My husband and I bickered constantly before our wedding.

It WILL stop.

Just hang in there (and try not to say anything you might regret later)

 

Good Luck!

Post # 11
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251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes, it’s normal!! I would say not to over stress about it.  With the insane amount of stress and nerves you and your FI probably have right now, it’s normal for you guys to have silly fights.

One thing we learned was really important (and that I was really bad at) was to have “wedding free nights/dates”.  Spend time together without even mentioning the wedding. At all! It sounds easy, but it isn’t.  Don’t bring up a detail, or anything.  If you want to, talk about the marriage and how you are excited about that… but just BE TOGETHER! 

And, once it’s all over… you will be married and it will be wonderful!  : )

Post # 13
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes, we did. It stopped right before the wedding as in like, the day before! We were just so stressed that we got irritated easily and we also werent able to spend a lot of time with one another so when we saw each other we were just venting our frustrations…you will be fine!

Post # 14
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hey I think it’s pretty normal.  Just nerves and all the build up to the day.  You guys should try and have a night thats just about you guys with no wedding talk, just each other.

This is a really stressful time, and there’s a lot of expectation around it.  Everything will be fine xx

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My husband and I had a bunch of fights in the beginning stages of wedding planning (we were married five months after getting engaged though). Stuff like whether or not children were invited, stress, etc.. etc..

Now that I think about there were squabbles throughout the process. I’m happy to report we don’t do that anymore and didn’t after the wedding (we have a whole new set of issues my in-laws created.. but we’ve even gotten through those 🙂

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