Post # 1
A month and a half until our wedding and I’m finding myself checked out, feeling disconnected and nagging at my FI for no reason. 🙁 He hasn’t changed anything – in fact hes probably been even more emotional then normal, reminding me every day how happy he is to have me and how I am the best thing in his life.
For some reason, everything just feels a bit surreal. We’ve been planning for over a year and a half and logically i know its around the corner, but it doesn’t feel like it actually could be finally here or that its actually about to be “real.” I also feel like all the wedding planning stuff we have left isn’t really the fun stuff – its all logistics. Seating plans, chasing down people for rsvps, paying for things, etc.
Ugh, any advice on how to get back those excited and gushy wedding bliss feelings? lol
I’m not having any cold feet or anything like that. I can’t wait to marry my FI – he is absolutely amazing. I just need help getting out of this funk!
Post # 4
Hey there…maybe take a week where you don’t talk about the wedding…like no exceptions. Tell your friends and fam you’re taking the week off so you can just reconnect and be a couple without the looming nuptials. You can go on a date or two, take walks, watch movies, etc etc anything but discuss wedding details, no pressure…just love 🙂
Post # 5
@QuirkySocialite: Yeah. That is probably a good idea. It’s just hard because we found out that he might have to go away for his job in a few weeks for the next month. So after a few weeks, i might not see him again in person until the wedding. I’m really upset about this too, but there’s nothing we can do about it. 🙁
Post # 6
I am feeling the exact same way!! We have been engaged since last January, and I have been a super-planner almost the whole time… basically it has been all I think about! Now that we are getting close (less than 2 months) I am just starting to feel… blah. I love FI and I can’t wait to be married, but as for the actual wedding planning, I am starting to become super apathetic! I think its pretty natural after having planned for so long. Plus, like you said the stuff we have to do now isn’t exactly fun 🙁
Good luck and if I find out a way to get super excited again (like I was a few months ago) I will let you know 🙂
Post # 7
@MissJK: I thought i was going crazy…especially since no one else had said anything. I thought i was the only one feeling this way! Your wedding is just 2 days after mine, so we are on the exact same time line!
I’ll let you know too, if i find a way get rid of these wedding “blah” feelings!
Post # 8
@HappinessIsInDaisies: Girl, I feel you! Our wedding is less than 2 months away and I am stressed to the max! FI and I are bickering more than ever over stupid little things, and we always feel silly for doing so after its over. We’ve got a lot on our plate right now between the wedding almost being here and moving into a new apartment next week and we’re taking it out on each other. We try to remind ourselves that its just the stress talking, and take time every night where we just cuddle and kiss and don’t talk about anything stressful. It helps us remember that we’re playing on the same team and that we’re not each other’s enemy, even when things are tense. Good luck!
Post # 9
I’m getting married on Saturday and about three weeks ago I was there. Talk to a supportive friend about it who will not give advice, but will listen and make you feel safe and strong. My best friend listened, and reminded me of how loved and awesome I am, just as you should be as well. Take care of yourself. Personally, I was very sensitive and thought everything everyone said was rude or an insult directed towards me. It will pass for you, just as it did for me, I hope.
I think it stems from the build-up and all of the overwhelming emotions that are brought forth during wedding planning and all of the attention you receive during it. You are going from the much-revered and loaded word ‘bride’ to simply a newlywed. It’s a big change, and sometimes when one knows and feels a big hange that is coming the last little bit is so frustrating and drawn out.
Good luck to you, hope you are feeling like yourself again soon. Keep us updated!