(Closed) Pre-wedding gatherings – what are you doing? I need some inspiration!

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Are you having a rehearsal/rehearsal dinner?  I think that’s what most people do the night before the wedding.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You could do a “lets kick off the wedding festivities” event.  I am confused though…if you want to have some type of appetizer, someone has to pay for it…and is therefore hosting the party.  It can totally be you and your groom though.  We are hosting a “wedding eve soiree” for all of our guests in lieu of a rehearsal dinner.  It’s my groom’s big project and he’s really proud of his involvement so I just let him run with it…a dinner cruise on the Chicago River.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think it’s more typical for this type of event to be hosted, being the day/night before the actual wedding. It’s reminiscent of rehearsal dinner even if there’s no rehearsal.

If u or ur family has a house, open up the house for a informal bbq or appetizer/drinks, or dessert. Or if you want the event to be earlier, a bbq or frisbee in the park?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it is good etiquette to host the pre-wedding event.  I would just go for something reasonable in cost.  Like pren79 suggested, if you know someone who would be willing to open up their house to your guests in the area you could have some kind of bbq or something.  Even pizza.  You could have a similar event at a park in your area or at a low-key restaurant.  The point I am trying to make is that I think events like this should be hosted by the couple or the couple’s family, but there are ways to make them very affordable.  Pizza for 100 people would only run you a few hundred dollars.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

By the way, my family and I held a BBQ at a local park by our house and it was great!  Very casual and fun.  We made all of the food, including ten pies, but it was worth it!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We aren’t really having a rehearsal at our ceremony because there is a wedding already scheduled the day before (each wedding gets full access from 9am-midnight). So, we are planning on gathering the bridal party and close family for dinner at a local resturant and then the girls are going to one of my bridesmaid’s house for a slumber party! We are going to have drinks, appetizers and treat each other to relaxing spa treatments 🙂 I’m very excited! My fiance will be staying at our house the night before because of our dog and hasn’t even began to think about anything he wants to do! 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

After our rehearsal dinner we are having a quick non-hosted event to greet our out of town guests who aren’t in the wedding party.  Basically, we have just informed our guests (through the wedding schedule in their OOT bags) that they are welcome to swing by so-and-so bar where we will be hanging out for a couple of hours having drinks.  FI and I want to go to bed reasonably early on the night before our wedding, but at least this will allow us to catch up a bit with some of our guests before the Big Special Day 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We had a very informal get together at a local pub’s roof-top bar.  It started around 8 pm and it was not hosted so everyone had to purchase their own drinks/eats (although my husband and I never had to put down a dollar or see our glass get empty!).  We had this after our rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.  We did not send out invitations but we had a DW so we spread the word by mouth and then put it on the itinerary that was included in the OOT bags.  We were careful to call it “casual” and by starting at 8 pm, no one came expecting to be fed.  It worked perfectly and we really enjoyed it!  Some guests chose not to come – as they wanted to sight-see, get some rest after a long day of travel or whatever – and that was fine, too. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

My friend was married the day after Halloween, and I organized our friends into a small Halloween party in a hotel room after the rehearsal dinner. The bride had a great time and even invited some of her and her FI’s family. We had a blast. Not that that suggestion helps out everyone who’s getting married during the other 364 days of the year. 🙂

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