Post # 1
the wedding is next summer! i’m already nervous. Not having seconds thoughs exactly, but it hit me yesterday that all I’ve been thinking about is plannng the wedding. I haven’t been thinking much about the marriage that comes after!!
I’ve explained my thoughts/feelings more in my blog:
These feelings are normal, right? I mean, marrying someone is a BIG deal!
Post # 3
@mtnhoney: I’m right there with you. I keep wondering lately if I’m making a huge mistake.
Post # 4
@Badass Bride: I’m sorry to hear that!! I’m not feeling that way, but it is a big decision we’re making, isn’t it? And we want to make it work.
Post # 5
@mtnhoney: I think it’s just an overwhelming decision…I know ultimately I’ll marry him, that I love my fiance, but I just feel panicky, like I’m giving up my freedom. I love being an independent woman and I don’t want to lose that. I’ve fought so hard to be my own person, and the idea of being a part of a team is scary.
I know it’s just jitters, but still…they’re annoying, aren’t they!??!
Post # 6
ah, i see. well marriage doesn’t have to mean you lose yourself. That’s codependency.
There’s a great book out there called “If the Buddha Married” about maintaining your sense of self within a partnership and building sustaining relationships on a spiritual path.
I know what everything to plan for our weddings and everyday life, who has time to read, but you might enjoy it.
Post # 7
I know what you mean about getting caught up in the planning and forgetting that you are actually getting married! That’s part of the reason Fiance and I have started doing monthly pre-marital counseling. It helps us remember to tend to our relationship as well as all the wedding stuff.