Post # 1
So here’s the background. FI and I did not have an engagement party and we are not having a stag and doe. I was not planning on having a wedding shower either but my mom thought it would be a nice way to get everyone together before the wedding, and I agree. The place that she booked can actually hold about 100 people. So would it be fine to invite friends and family and have a casual pre-wedding party, or do you think this is a weird idea and I should just invite a small group and have a traditional shower?
Post # 3
I think if you want a bigger, more casual party, that’s exactly what you should have!
Some people do showers for the gifts, some do them to enjoy time with loved ones, some do them for both reasons – I think your party would fit solidly in the second reason! Go for it. 🙂
Post # 4
Do it big!! It’s your wedding do what you want! 🙂
Post # 5
I agree with the PPs. Since it’s the wedding you and your fiance are having, go with the celebratory methods that feel the most comfortable for the two of you. It sounds like having a gathering like that would be a great way to celebrate, and if that’s what sounds good for the two of you, go for it! 🙂
Post # 6
sounds great and perfect for you!
What is a stag and doe?
Post # 7
I have been to several parties like that which they called a couples shower
Post # 8
Thank you everyone. Your comments make me feel better!
@amyisnice: A stag and doe is a party that the couple throws in order to make money for the wedding. They can sell tickets to it and/or have 50/50 draws and raffels and stuff like that. They are common in some places but not so much in others.
Post # 9
I think thats a great idea! It’s a nice way to just relax and let off some steam before the wedding.