Post # 1
I was looking into stationary to for writing thank you notes for gifts before the wedding. Possibly after my bridal shower. My question is, who do these cards represent? The bride? The couple? Im pretty sure its (traditionally) considered the brides responsibility to get the thank you’s out asap. I know I’ve read a ton of etiquette articles on the topic. So shouldn’t the pre wedding thank you cards for gifts represent me more than us.
Heres the reason why Im asking. I may want to get them monogramed and I wasn’t sure if I should include my fiancé’s name because I know darn well he won’t be involved in writing them. Im not bitter or anything its just a fact that I have nicer handwriting and will get it mailed faster. So is it appropriate to use my first name or the first letter of my name if its a monogram.
And the second reason why is because Im definitely looking at more feminine designs. For example this hot pink enveloped card: http://www.etsy.com/listing/121764269/magnolia-personalized-couples-notecard?ref=shop_home_active
Oh and just for fun look at the grumpy cat cards. Im desperately looking for a way to use them (not in a wedding way I just want them). http://www.etsy.com/listing/119172379/hand-drawn-valentines-from-a-grumpy-cat?ref=shop_home_active
Post # 3
I would have bridal shower thank-yous just from you. Engagement party coudl be from both of you, but not with a monogram of his (your future) last name. I would not use his last name until you are legally married.
Post # 4
@ImperialRed: I found really cute ones from storkie for my bridal shower. They have a bride on the front and just say my name. the bridal shower thank you’s can come just from you, even though the gifts are for both of you, because the shower was given in your honor.
Post # 5
Until you get married, use your own stationary.
Even though it doesn’t match our style or tone for our wedding, I found these fantastic red phoenix note cards (in Chinese/Taiwanese culture, the Phoenix represents the bride) to use as thank yous until the wedding. Then we plan to have personalized stationary with both our names to use for thank yous after the wedding.
Post # 6
I just wanted to note that Im not putting my first name and maiden name on the cards because I feel like thats too me me me. And Im not putting my mairred last name because well thats not my name yet. I was only thinking about my first name or my first initial or I could always say from Joe and Jane but I wasnt sure if the cards were supposed to be from me or from us. That and I like the really girly designs, I mean how cool would it be to get a hot pink envelope in the mail. And if its hot pink I though maybe I shouldnt have his name on it 🙂