(Closed) Pre-work panic attack, anyone? (long, depressing and vent-y)

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Hi there-

Make sure you take a minute to breathe. πŸ™‚ I know it’s hard. And I’m a horrible person to be giving advice, but I’d like to try because I know what it’s like to be panicky and have anxiety and it’s not fun.

First things first – it’s hard, but try not to compare yourself to others. I know we are all guilty of it (me too!) for sure. But no two people take the same exact path. Trust me, if I’m looking at my friends/coworkers who make more money and I think back and wonder what I could have done differently – it will only make me upset. Sure, I do it from time to time. But, the truth is, no one is perfectly happy. Or maybe only the select few. You have to be happy with what you have. Easier said than done, of course.

Try not to focus on the time frame as much. People get where they are going at ALL different times. I ask my almost 70-year-old father and he’d say “I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.” It’s a bad example, but it’s true. He did a lot of jobs. I did a lot of jobs (I’m 30). And I still have no clue where I’ll be.

If you want to do something different, do it. You can. I promise. But – you need to take it much more slowly. One thing at a time.

I’m going to attach a link. This book was brilliant and I have read this short story numerous times. It tells you when you are overwhelmed and don’t know what to do next and worrying about too many things – how to just break it down and do ONE thing at a time.

http://blog.cleveland.com/pdextra/2010/04/lesson_2_when_in_doubt_just_ta.html

Best of luck.

Post # 5
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7653 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If you are still really interested in working in beauty industry, I think you should go for it! Decide to make a change. Get all gussied up, go in for some interviews, and learn along the way. Also, there is nothing wrong with going back to school to get your Master’s and better yourself. If you keep looking at a time line of how far away that goal is then you will get yourself down every time.

Whatever you do, don’t let your hygiene suffer or else you will get worse. I did that in a past relationship. I really let myself go, and I lost a lot of respect for myself.

I am sure you are a beautiful woman on the inside and out. You have a supportive FI and professional (when you can see her, which I suggest trying to make something with her soon so you don’t feel worse). I say grab the future by the tail pipes and figure out how to be the best you can be. Prioritize your goals for this year (just this year) and works towards them. Give yourself a pat on the back for every little step along the way. And if you ever need encouragement the bee boards are just a few clicks away πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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1069 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I have no advice for you, but I just wanted to say I know exactly how you feel! I’m newly 29, also have PCOS, feel like I’ve wasted time in my career only to end up with basically nothing and I’m having Panic attacks everytime I see an email from my boss. I hope things get better for you!

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