- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
I'd consider having your Grandfather do either a blessing for the ceremony or say grace at the reception to include him but limit his time. As for your current minister, consider talking to him. Everyone can have an off day. If he's normally good, probe about the bad ceremony politely and decide from there if you need to consider someone else.
why can't they both do it? Have the pastor of the church give the sermon, but your grandfather do most other things?
@Cappugcino: I like this idea. You could have the actual pastor do the wedding, but follow up a lot and talk to him about how he prepares for the wedding. I would also have your grandpa particiapte in someway as suggested. Maybe he could even do the vows - the "important part", but he wouldn't have an opportunity to go on and on.
It is possible that the other couple did not give the pastor any direction on how they wanted the ceremony to flow.
I agree that you should use the current minister, but ask your grandpa to say a prayer or blessing.
Meet with the pastor and fully explain what you expect on your wedding day. Ask if he has any recommendations for the ceremony or you could write your own ceremony so he has everything in front of him for the big day.
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| MissBoPeep | 89 |
| beargoose | 54 |
| hisgoosiegirl | 51 |
| Mrs.KMM | 46 |
| BetterSherm | 42 |
| akp0702 | 41 |
| ndreighton | 40 |
| stardustintheeyes | 36 |
| Beckster329 | 36 |
| MrsPom | 35 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| MissPatience | 3 |
| keepsmiling19 | 2 |
| Zalea17 | 2 |
| Beckster329 | 2 |
| Rivendeler | 2 |
| KCKnd2 | 2 |
| katieappleseed | 2 |
| julies1949 | 1 |
| pengoala | 1 |
| Mrs.H2B | 1 |
Ok, here's the situation.
My FI and I are getting married in the Presbyterian church I grew up in as a kid. This is the same church my parents were married in, which I think is a great way to pay homage to their relationship. Both the FI and I have met the current pastor of the church multiple times, and love him as a person. However, we recently attended a wedding at the church back in October where he served as the officiant, and he was a total scatterbrain--we're talking the groom had to remind him what part of the ceremony was next, etc. He played it off lightheartedly, but it really seemed like he wasn't at all prepared for the ceremony. I'm worried if we use him for our ceremony he'll be the same way.
Insert situation number two: My grandpa (my dad's dad) is a retired Presbyterian minister in his early 80s, and my dad recently suggested I should consider asking him to officiate our ceremony because he's starting to feel useless now that he's older. This would again pay homage to my parents' marriage because my grandpa served as the pastor at their wedding ceremony, too. However, my grandpa loves to hear himself talk/is incredibly long-winded, and I've always felt kind of awkward around him. He lives in another state so I never spent much time around him growing up and my FI has never met him before.
Herein lies the dilemma: should we go with the current pastor of the church, or go with my grandpa? Or is there a third option I'm missing? Help me, bees!