Pregnancy and Motorcycles

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Is it reasonable for him to want me to get rid of my bike?
    Yes (please explain) : (25 votes)
    30 %
    No (please explain) : (57 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 3
    3237 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It seems a bit silly to me. There is no reason at all why you would need to get rid of it. I mean, kind of sweet if he just worrys about you but still, he doesn’t get to tell you if you can or can’t ride.

    Post # 4
    28 posts
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I dont think you would have to sell your bike BUT i would abosolutely not ride while pregnant- its definitely a no no (as you know). If your are TTC I would stop riding. Even early in pregnancy riding is dangerous. 

    You can ride after having a baby. Some people are just born to ride Cool Totally understand that feeling. My grandparents still ride!


    Post # 5
    3009 posts
    Sugar bee

    @NotablySidedJP:  he’s crazy if somehow you need to ditch your bike and he doesn’t. Seriously, he is being a clown here. 

    Post # 6
    644 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I can see if he wanted both of you to get rid of your bikes but it’s stupid to think it’s ok for him but not ok for you.

    Post # 8
    370 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think that’s a huge double standard – you absolutely should not have to sell your bike, especially if HE’S not even considering it.

    That being said… and I’m not trying to start anything, but I get so nervous for motorcyclists because you are so vulnerable to motorists not paying attention or hazards in the road. I’ve had 3 friends in major accidents the last 2 years due to car driver error – may be worth considering if the risk is worth it.

    Post # 9
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I voted before reading your entire post and I want to change my response to “No”.  Honestly, motorcycles scare me to death and I could understand him wanting you BOTH to get rid of your bikes for fear of something happening to you after you have children, god forbid.  It reminds me of something I read where people went skydiving before having children beause they didn’t feel it would be responsible of them as parents to put their lives at risk like that.  

    BUT, that’s complete bullshit that he is allowed to have his bike and you are not.  Why is your responsibility to your child so much more important in his mind than his own?  

    Post # 10
    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Yeah, it’s reasonable of him. His view is that when you risk your life now, it’s not only your own life that could be destroyed… you have a family to be responsible for. Marriage and children means we have to be less selfish in general.

    My FI rides and he will probably sell his motorcycle once we’re pregnant. 

    Post # 11
    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Oh, but yeah, he has to get rid of his bike too. WTF is he thinking, that it’s ok for him to be selfish like that, when he knows it’s not ok for you? I’d be angry about that. Like you and the kids don’t need him as much as he and they need you. How stupid of him.

    Post # 13
    6447 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @cora_123:  +1

    Definitely a double standard

    Post # 14
    312 posts
    Helper bee

    @NotablySidedJP:  yeah, definitely a double standard. Having grown up without a mother, I can say that I wouldn’t take the risk of riding a bike if I had kids at home but that could just be because I don’t like bikes, lol. Your husband could make the same argument about not flying in a plane and I think it would be ridiculous to stop flying because you’re a mom. Keep riding if it makes you happy! 

    Post # 15
    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @mseagles:  the actual risk of those two things is not comparable.

    If riding a motorcycle had a low death and injury rate, I would never consider asking my FI to sell his bike at any point. But it doesn’t.

    Post # 16
    69 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I didn’t vote, but I think you both should get rid of your bikes. He’s being a hypocrite!  What kind of bike do you and your SO have just out of curiosity?  My DH has been riding since he was old enough to sit up practically, he’s in his mis 30’s now and we’re expecting our first child.  The first thing he did was put his bike up for sale, it’s a crotch rocket though. I didn’t even have to ask him, he just felt as a father it’s the right thing to do.  He is keeping his dirt bike for fun, but since you’re not on the road with other motorists and mostly on tracks with other experienced riders its a lot safer, as long as you’re safe. We also are acquaintances with a female who is a single mom that rides crotch rockets, and we kind of think she’s crazy, especially since she’s a single mom. Maybe you guys can get some cruisers after the kids are a little older? 

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