Pregnancy and new job dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: When should I tell my new employer about my pregnancy? (Please explain below)
    Before starting the position : (8 votes)
    18 %
    Right away on the first day : (6 votes)
    13 %
    Wait a few days after starting to acknowledge the pregnancy, even though they'll prob figure it out : (31 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
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    1414 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t really see a benefit to telling them in advance. I would wait until you’ve started the job before bringing it up.

    Post # 4
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Depends on the employment laws in your location.  Here, for example, either the employee, or the employer, can terminate the employment for no reason, on no notice, for two weeks.  If there’s a period like that, after that.

    Once you’re employed, they can’t fire you for being pregnant (assuming there’s pretty decent employment laws where you live), but it would be hard to prove they didn’t hire you because of your pregnancy.  You don’t know, yet, if the employer is scrupulous.

    Post # 5
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    939 posts
    Busy bee

    I would wait until starting the job. If this is your first pregnancy there is a good chance you won’t be showing at 16 weeks, and even if you are you won’t have a huge bump, an dit will be easily covered. 

    Post # 6
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    8821 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’m in a simliar situation.  I’m at the point where it’s obvious so I am telling employers straight up that I am pregnant. So far they appreciate the honesty.  In my personal opinion I don’t think it’s fair to hide it and then spring that on them.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2783 posts
    Sugar bee

    @spicyshimmer:  I think you need to start working and be there for several weeks before you tell them. Legally, you dont even have to tell them…although it would become pretty obvious eventually. You wont be obviously pregnant at 16 weeks.

    Post # 8
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    8821 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Ninteenthchance:  Not necessarily true, I’m 15.5 weeks pregnant and I popped last week. It’s pretty obvious unless I wear a baggy sweater.  Another bee on here is 16.5 weeks and looks very pregnant. It depends on the body 🙂

     

    Post # 10
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    1563 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @spicyshimmer:  I’m in the same boat where it is likely I will be offered a new job within the next day or two. I did not tell them at the interview since I was in the first trimester and nothing was for certain. I think I will tell them after I start the position as I don’t want to give them any reason to decide not to offer me the job (when I’ve been give a verbal offer pending contact with my references).

    Post # 11
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    42538 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I wold wait until you have been there for a few days.

    You are not considered an employee until you start work so your protection is limited if you tell them and they decide to rescind the job offer.

     

    Post # 12
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    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    At my job, your insurance doesn’t kick in until 3 months after you start – you’re on “probation.”
    We recently hiried a woman who waited 3 months after she started to let the company know she was pregnant.

    At first, I was a bit taken aback.
    But then… I realized it’s none of the company’s business if a job candidate is pregnant, and she didn’t have to tell anyone a thing. It was smart of her to wait until after her “probation” time expired.

    Don’t mention anything until after you start there, if you feel that you need to mention it at all. Unless you work in a high-impact field (i.e. construction) I think once you need to arrange for leave, then it becomes something that you’ll need to discuss. Otherwise, wait a few weeks to get settled in before you let anyone know.

    Post # 14
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    1563 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @spicyshimmer:  Thanks! I’m feeling like I’m in limbo right now though. I reviewed the benefits of the position and I would be paying double what I’m paying now for health insurance with not a high enough salary increase to make up for it. So I’m worried that taking the new job would result in us being in a worse financial situation than we are in now (we are okay for now but not great). I just don’t know what to do. Not to mention the added stress of being pregnant, telling the new job, and the fact that if I stayed at my current job, I’d be able to take a normal amount of leave and probably get paid for 6 weeks of it. Sigh. If I take the new job, I would tell them shortly after I actually start the position (somewhere around 14/15 weeks).

    Post # 15
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    1132 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @spicyshimmer:  I would at least wait until your first day, maybe until a few days in to make sure all the paperwork is processed and they can’t let you go without going through the complete process, whatever that might be. It’s sad to think you have to protect yourself that way, but I think it’s wise. 

    I’m in a similar position, I’m hoping to start a new job when I’m about 13 weeks pregnant. My doctor said I shouldn’t be showing by then (since I’m not “a stick” in his words, ha!), and won’t be until 16-20 weeks. So I plan to wait as long as possible, hopefully at least a month. 

     

    Post # 16
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    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @spicyshimmer:  I would personally wait a bit and tell them. It would be best if you’ve had a chance to prove that you’re an awesome employee and build your rapport with your boss. It’s even better if you can get it documented somewhere that you did a great job on a project.

    I don’t know which state you are in, but some states have laws where employees can be considered “at-will” employees, meaning they can be terminated at any time, no questions asked. Of course, this doesn’t apply to anything covered under Title VII (e.g. race, sex) but generally speaking, no major company with a functioning HR staff would ever tell a pregnant woman, “We are firing you because you are pregnant.” They can, however, say that they are eliminating your position. They don’t even necessarily have to give you a reason.  So technically, they could still get rid of you (even though you are pregnant) but if you have documentation from them saying you are an asset and you do good work, you have a better chance at proving that the only reason you were terminated is because you are pregnant.

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