Post # 1
Is it weird that I have been getting jealous when I see that my friends and co-workers are pregnant even though I don’t want a baby for 5 years.
I can’t understand myself I am truly happy for them but a small piece of me feels jealous which is not like me at all.
I searched within myself to see why it may be and I think it’s because my husband already has kids so I am jealous of the fact that my friends are all having their husbands first born so the post and stories they tell are “awwww moments” that won’t be first moments for my husband and I.
Anything I can do to overcome these feelings… has anyone gone through any thing similar?
Post # 3
All i can say is that no matter what number kid you husband has, he will always be in awe of the new baby. Children don’t get less exciting as they become child #2, #3, #4.
Post # 4
@Birdee106: I agree…just b/c it won’t be your DH’s first, doesn’t mean that there won’t be equal excitement when you have your first with him!
Post # 5
Yea that’s what I hear.
But I guess it’s the naive moments and comments that my friends’ husbands make about babies that me even think about it. Knowing that my husband is fully aware of the whole baby thing he won’t have those silly questions or concern because he’s been there done that. However, I do believe a new birth of a child no matter what number is exciting.
I just envy that they get to share the same 1st time experience. I guess it is what it is. :
Post # 6
@shimmerybee: Ugh I haven’t been through what you are-however I have infertility issues. (But have two girls) And before I got pregnant with my second everyone pregnant made me upset. In your situation I would concentrate on all you are going to get to do in the next five years that you couldn’t if you had a baby. And I agree with the other poster, every baby brings new excitement and joy 🙂
Post # 7
Dude….I TOTALLY GET YOU!!!! Even before I wanted kids I’d get slightly jealous of them & I can’t for the life of me explain why.
It only went away when we started planning our children & started “trying”. It was like….”ok, i’m going to have mine and we’ve even picked out names….I’m not too far behind”
That being said: I have always been used to doing everything first in my family & my circle of friends….first to graduate, get married, get a job…blablabla so it was new for me when people in my life we’re “ahead” of me
So sorry you’re feeling this way–I know, it’s weird and confusing
Post # 8
@shimmerybee: Oh yeah & regarding kids….I come from a huge family and EVERY child is treated like the 1st ever and EVERY child brings his or her own “aww moments” & new things…trust me..daddy will be as proud as he was with any of the others.
Post # 9
Totally get it – and I think it’s great that you’re trying to understand it and deal with it. That’s not always easy.
I feel similarly – I would like to TTC now, but it’s not really an option for various reasons. I just try to let myself have those feelings, sit with them, and let them pass, because they’re normal. The important thing is not to let them shape my behavior toward others.
Post # 10
A deep part of me really wants to be a mother, but my Fiance and I are no where near ready for that yet. We have a lot of growing up to do before that. I understand how you’re feeling, however, when the time comes and you both have a baby together, he will be just as “AWEED” as he was for the first and second baby. Don’t worry, he’s with you now.
Post # 11
ahh! Me too! I feel pretty jealous that I’m working and have accomplished so much and they get to stay at home with a beautiful baby. I feel awful saying that, but it’s true.