Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
I signed up for a few pregnancy/prenatal classes available for free through my insurance and hospital. There is a breastfeeding class and newborn care class. There’s also a pain medication/c-section class that I scheduled, but hopefully I’ll have a baby by the time that class comes around since they didn’t have availability until my actual due date!
My husband doesn’t seem too interested to go and he can’t seem to grasp why he’d need to go with me to a breastfeeding class, but I think that it’d be a good chance for him to be involved in the pregnancy and get educated!
Did your husband/boyfriend/fiance/significant other go with you to any classes, or is he planning to? How was it?
Post # 3
DH skipped breastfeeding, and one of the three childbirth prep classes (he had to work) but you better believe I “kindly requested” that he join me for the newborn parenting class as well as the rest of the childbirth prep classes! I was planning an intervention free birth and I knew I would need his support, so I couldn’t very well have him go freaking out on me in the middle of labor. I needed to feel confident in him as a supportive partner in order to tackle the task at hand.
He ended up learning a few new things, I gained confidence in my own body’s abilities, and we managed to make an evening out of it when we had class and went out to dinner- like squeezing in a few more date nights before the baby 🙂
Post # 4
We didn’t take classes, I wanted DH to take them due to he had no clue how to care for an infant. I have had the class in college due to what got my degree in, plus worked in daycare.
Told him we either take the classes or he got to read this book my SIL gave us that was pretty much in detail of what goes on. Yeah he chose the book and still managed to get get out of it due to little boy came 7 weeks early.
Post # 5
well mine is pretty much going to have to, to translate!! we live in mexico and my spanish is still a bit shaky
even if that wasnt necessary, yeah i’d want him to go and be upset if he didnt
Post # 6
@DaneLady: I feel the same way — as I am going to try to do this the old-fashioned way, I REALLY need DH to be on board! I also told him he’s going to have to read a couple chapters out of one of my books. He says he’s fine with that.
As for the classes, I have a tremendous advantage in that DH is Army and he actually works in the hospital where all the classes are and where I’ll be giving birth. So he really has no excuse at all not to come to all doc appointments and classes — he’s already there in the building!!!
Post # 7
Yes, but he’s clueless (but wants to learn!) so he’s happily on board. However, fitting it into his schedule will be a lot trickier!
Post # 8
My DH is happy to go with me to classes. I gave him the option of pre-natal or a combo of pre-natal and parenting and he chose the latter which is 4 weeks longer. I was impressed since he usually leaves anything household-related entirely to me. He’s probably doign it because he’d rather go to the classes with me than have me nag him to read a book. Plus I think he knows that sometimes I’m going to need a break and he’s going to be in charge so he wants to feel like he knows what he’s doing.
My DH makes a lot of jokes with his guy friends about the classes and I think this helps get him excited about going. They laugh about all the silly questions they’re going to ask just to get a laugh out of the teacher. Perhaps if you try to change your DH’s mindset from it’ll be strictly informative to a fun session that you’ll be able to laugh about then he’ll be more willing to go?
Post # 9
FI said when the time comes he’ll go with me… He knows if he doesn’t go I won’t go, and if neither of us go, were screwed, because neither of us knows squat about taking care of a baby hah
Post # 10
We’ve signed up for classes. DH hasn’t overtly complained about having to do it, but I can tell he isn’t looking forward to it either. Oh well. There’s no such thing as a part-time parent in my books, so he’s not getting out of it.
Post # 11
DH is on board with going to whatever classes I request of him. I am considering the Bradley Method so he will need to be there (it is 6 classes). We will take a few additional classes through the hospital, but I don’t think I will make him go to the breastfeeding class (I really don’t think I’ll have patience for him when he tries to correct me while breastfeeding based on the class material!)
Post # 12
We went to birth class together. I don’t know if it’s regional, or due to the type of class, or what, but everyone in the class came as a couple.
Post # 13
DH came with me, actually we mostly went for him! Everyone in the class had their husbands with them too and the women knew most of the information given out already, it was the men that really got the education. The instructor actually pointed out that the parts about breathing, positioning and how to make informed medical decisions are most important for the husbands to know because when a woman is in labor she won’t be able to remember or concentrate on things and will need someone there to act as an advocate for her. I thought our class was brilliant for the both of us, but DH is super happy he went.
I’m past my due date and just the other day DH said he was bringing our notes from the class to the hospital with us so he can remember different positions and breathing techniques to help me in case he forgets.
Post # 14
DH is very enthusiastic about the whole pregnancy process (seriously, he tells everyone pregnancy is AWESOME! – LOL) so he is planning on attending every class we sign up for. He already attended the orientation at the hospital and the childbirth, breastfeeding and carseat classes are in the queue, as is the hospital tour. That said, this is also the same man who makes it a point to come to every appointment even when there’s no U/S scheduled. He actually liked attending the orientation, although he pretended it was boring and pointless. Men.
If you need a reason as to why he should go with you to a breastfeeding class, here’s one. The nurse at the orientation said dads should come to every class because pregnant mommas forget everything so someone has to remind her of what to do. She said that a lot of moms, in the moment, forget everything that was taught in class and it’s helpful for husbands to say, “Okay, now you do this. And then this. And remember this tip…” Considering I forget what my OB says half the time, I think this is a very compelling reason!
Post # 15
@moniquaa: my SO is coming with me for infant CPR, baby care & happiest baby on the block (sleeping strategies). He has never held a baby so I think the baby care is really important as well as infant CPR. He agrees and is happy to attend.
Post # 16
I work as a nurse so I’m already certified for infant, child, and adult CPR – The only class I’m taking is a breastfeeding class, and no, I won’t be dragging DH with me for that, lol.
I wanted to take more classes but unfortunately my husband’s work schedule is insane and he can’t take the time off right now. Hopefully we’ll be ok, but somedays I feel totally unprepared!