Post # 1
So since I’ve been pregnant, there have been a few recurring things that just pi$$ me right off!
First is people telling me that I should indulge and “eat for 2” since this is “the only time I can get away with it” and then pushing junk food on me. ENOUGH already! I don’t need to be pregnant and fat! Every pound I eat now is a pound I have to lose later, and I’m sure the baby doesn’t need all those extra cookies, slices of cake, etc…
Next is everyone, especially co-workers, assuming that if I’m stressed out, frustrated or angry that it must be the pregnant hormones. I couldn’t possibly have a legitimate reason for being frustrated. It’s like the second I told people I was pregnant, they are all walking on eggshells so they don’t set me off, when in actuality my mood has been pretty stable, except for my once a week late night crying fests.
I work with kids between 12 and 17, and have been told no less than 4 seperate times: “oh, you’re pregnant? I thought you were just getting fat.” Teenagers suck.
I’m sick of the horror stories, like the coworker who told me about her friend who lost her baby at 6 months and had to deliver a stillborn. I am just six months, and I’m still not sure if I’m more horrified by what happened to her or this person’s complete lack of common sense, consideration and tact.
Anything else people are doing/saying that’s particularly annoying to you?
Post # 3
The worst part for me was people touching me. Why on earth do people think they can break that personal space circle just because you are pregnant?
Don’t worry about the horror stories, people just don’t think before they speak. I had a great delivery, about 15 minutes and was easy peasy. I broke every “rule” in the book, and my son was normal weight, is at the top of his class, and always has been healthy as a horse. For every horror story you hear, there are 1000 great stories and yours will be one of those.
Post # 4
I hated how the pregnant excuse immediately replaced the PMS excuse :/
The touching was the WORST, especially when complete strangers would do it/try to– seriously keep your weird-stranger hands away from my pregasaurus-rex belly!
Post # 5
I’m pretty annoyed with people that think they can freaking pet me all the time, I’m surely over that!
Also, I had a parent at work yesterday ask me, “Are you sure there’s only one in there? The doctors are really certain? It’s just that you’re SO BIG!” I could have slapped her right there…I’m not a big person, so STH up! Grrr!
Post # 6
My belly has been relatively small-ish throughout the pregnancy. About 2 weeks ago, though, I had a growth spurt and went from measuring a week (or cm) small to being right on target. Before that, strangers were still kind of hesitant to assume I was pregnant (props to them!). After that? I had a stranger ask if I thought I was going to even make it to my due date. Seriously? I had a week of being an appropriate amount of pregnant?!
Also, older family members assuming that a woman can’t do it all. “Oh, you’re going back to work?” “How are you going to manage things while traveling?” Well, people, that’s what my husband, support system, and daycare are for. I’d love to quit working but unfortunately that’s not an option for everyone.
Ok, and one more. When people ask basically about my birth plan (which is to try to hold out on drugs but to not beat myself up if I give in) and then laugh at me like I’m super unrealistic.
Post # 7
Oh, the birthplan thing gets me too! I have stopped talking about it and am now using the vague “we’ll just see how it goes” because I was so frustrated. I’m trying for a natural drug-free birth if I can do it, and since it’s my first everyone kept saying that I’d change my mind once I went into labor and that there’s no way anyone can do childbirth drug free unless I have like a 2 hour labor and there’s no time.
Post # 8
@Lillindy: OMG! The touching is uncool.
I only have the tiniest little bump that to anyone else would look like I just ate a big meal so it’s not like I’m even “showing”. I’m not even that far along (15 wks) but recently announced it to my office. TWO of my coworkers touched me yesterday! Seriously people if I hadn’t just told you, you wouldn’t even know!!
Post # 9
I’m super annoyed with all the people who keep asking me what *exact* date is my due date. We have chosen not to share anything more than our due month (to avoid social pressure to induce if I pass my due date) but nobody is being respectful of this. When I tell them January, then persist in demanding to know the exact date. Seriously people…it’s a baby, not a New Year’s Eve count-down!
Post # 10
I’m not pregnant/never have been, but i can imagine then one really big no no will be if people try to touch my belly. I HATE having my space invaded. I”m not a hugs and kisses type of girl, so the thought of anyone other than my husband touching my belly? Oh man….makes me mad just thinking about it.
I think the other thing that will annoy, but not make me mad is the eating for two thing. Yeah, you may be eating for two..one of those is a developing baby that needs all the nutrients it can get, so I’m certainly not going to eat junkfood/crap for two!
Post # 11
You’ve got to nip this stuff in the bud!
My rule with touching was…. “If you pet my belly then I get to pet yours!” This resulted in 1) everyone thinking I was crazy 2) only one person other than Mr. DG ever petting my belly, since she let me pet her (flat) belly.
If someone said I was looking fat (or one said, Man! You look really puffy) my response would be, “I noticed you were packing a few on too” or “I wondered if you were feeling a little under the weather. You don’t look too hot today”. I followed that one up with “If you can’t tell a pregnant woman she looks good, then you just shouldn’t say anything at all”. The nastiness mostly stopped except from one girl who just wasn’t capable of stopping. I cut her out of my life until after the baby was born.
As for mood stuff, I didn’t really have an issue with that because I think I was more even tempered and had a better sense of well-being during my pregnancy than ever before! I was almost always in a good mood 🙂
Post # 12
@FreeRangeMom: That must be tough. We have been sharing our due date with people, so I know if I go past I’ll be dealing with the pressure to induce, which I’m against unless there’s a need to do so, besides going a certain number of days past my due date.
Everyone gets so annoyed when I say that I hope we go past our due date. I know that when I get to that point I’ll just want to get the show on the road and meet ur little guy, but there are a few weeks between when I have to return from my maternity leave until DH is off from school for the summer. Our official day care won’t start until the follow September, so I’m hoping to safely go 7-10 days past our due date, as long as I can still work, to try and fill that gap. I know I might be miserable and feeling huge, but I’m hoping that the lower stress from finding short term day care for that gap will motivate me to not complain if we go late. Also, they moved our date up 9 days, so I’m hoping that we’re actually due close to our original date, the 27th, instead of our new date, the 19th. At my last apt I measured 1 week behind for fundal length, so maybe it’ll work out. I should stop talking about it though, because everyone keeps saying how I’m wrong, and no one ever wants to go past their due date, etc…
Post # 13
@Mrs. DG: HAHA, I literally laughed out loud! I can only imagine the face on this crack rat looking parent if I said any of that to her!
And if I told my mom she couldn’t pet my belly until I pet hers I know for a fact she’d let me do it because she just can’t keep her hands to herself, even after all the times I’ve swatted her hand away and old her I wasn’t a troll doll.
Post # 14
I’m at almost 22 weeks and still facing morning sickness pretty regularly. I’m sick of hearing what I should and shouldn’t try to eat (I’ve been dealing with this for 13 weeks, think I have it figured out by now!). I’m also tired of hearing “shouldn’t it be over by now?” or “oh no you might be sick the whole time, hope that doesn’t mean something is wrong” Seriously people’s mouths just mystify me sometimes…
Post # 15
I found out the less you share, the less annoyed you will be. I just smiled and nodded as everyone told me to get an epidural and that it was crazy to want a drug free birth…I did a drug free birth. I even got called crazy AFTER I did it, which made no sense to me, but OK. 😛 Cloth diapers are another thing like that, but honestly, people will sass you no matter what, especially if you don’t do whatever is most common right now. I will say, be extra careful on sharing your thoughts on baby names. I think this is one that can be the most annoying! We finally decided to announce the name at the baby shower. I figured if it was *announced then no one would really try to change our minds. Leading up to it MIL still kept telling me she was nervous she wouldn’t like it. (rolls eyes)
Post # 16
Ugh I am only 10 weeks so I have a long time for people to get on my nerves! I am learning to keep my mouth shut though, because when people saw me reading my natural childbirth book, they asked if I was going to do that. I said yes and all the women who have kids started snickering and pretty much made fun of me by saying “just wait” and basically indicating that I could never do it. Okay that only motivates me more, because I really get off on proving people wrong! But why can’t people keep these things to themselves? Okay you don’t think I can do it, but can’t you just say Cool, good luck and leave it at that? And cloth diapers is another one. I have already gotten so many “Gross!” responses that I just give up! People are just rude and there is nothing you can do about it. After this, nobody is hearing our baby names until after the birth! The DRUG FREE BIRTH!