Post # 1
DH and I were married a little less than two months ago. We were both virgins before the wedding. Obviously, I was never afraid of getting pregnant before this. Now, I think I’ve turned into a pregnancy hypochondriac!
Every ache or pain and I’m convinced it’s a sign of pregnancy, despite being on bc and taking it perfectly. I’ve been feeling slightly queasy for the last two weeks or so and, in my mind, this is morning sickness. Because of that, every other ‘symptom’ just ‘confirms’ my theory – I’m peeing more, my boobs kinda hurt, etc…I haven’t even missed a period! (I’m expecting it Monday or Tuesday of this week.)
I realize the likelihood of me being pregnant is slim. I’m on bc and we haven’t actually been too, ahem, ‘active’ this month. We aren’t planning on trying for a baby for at least another year, but if I were pregnant it wouldn’t be the end of the world.
I just need to turn my brain off. This is all so new to me and has shown me just how happy I am that we waited till the wedding cause I don’t think I could have dealt with this anxiety every month throughout my teens or early 20s. I’m not the only one who ‘invents’ symptoms, right?
Post # 3
The thing about convincing yourself you’re pregnant is that it causes stress, and stress can make your period late – making you stress more! Don’t do that to yourself. You just got married in November so hopefully you can adjust soon and stop putting yourself through this every month.
Post # 4
Yes, I’ve thought of that too. The stress could make me late which will definitely make me stress more. For that matter, the stress is probably causing the nausea and the more frequent trips to bathroom too.
Need to shut my brain off and just go with the flow…
Post # 5
I disagree. If you are taking your bcp properly (at the same time every day) then there is virtually no chance of getting pregnant. You are wasting a lot of anxious energy for no reason.
I did not wait as long as you did to have sex, and I did not spend every month of my early 20s wrought with anxiety. I also never got pregnant.
Post # 6
I also do this every month, despite taking BC perfectly. In fact, I’m doing it right now. I think FI is ready to kill me. I always think of crayfish who got pregnant, and she swears she was taking BCP perfectly.
Post # 7
Birth control can actually cause a lot of pregnancy symptoms, and having sex frequently can cause your breasts to swell and hurt. I’ve had that happen to me and it’s grown worse on the IUD. If you’re still getting your period then don’t freak out so much. It’s just your body adjusting to the birth control and it will mellow out over time. If you think you’re pregnant though just take a pregnancy test to ease your mind. And don’t worry, you’re not alone with the pregnancy hypochondria. I still freak out sometimes.
Post # 8
Would you feel more comfortable if you layered birth control? For us, when it was REALLY important that we not get pregnant we used the BCP and condoms together. I liked being able to see that it hadn’t broken, on top of the hormonal protection.
However, I was sexually active on birth control for 10 years and never got pregnant. Maybe once you a go a little longer with no issues, you’ll start trusting it more.
Post # 9
My boobs used to be very sensitive right before my period when on a particular type of BC pill. I understand why you are stressing about it but you really are very unlikely to get pregnant while on BC. I hope you can try to relax!!
Post # 10
Haha, everyone in my family like that! My dad (years ago) found a pregnancy test in my sister’s bathroom (when she was 16). Nikki was like “Relax, I take one every month or I freak out” and my Mom started HYSTERICALLY laughing because she did the same thing when she was 17 (and 18, and every year until they started TTC)
It’s totally normal!
Post # 11
I definitely had more pregnancy “symptoms” when I was taking the pill, too. When I stopped taking the pill, I no longer had sore boobs, etc. when my period was approaching. I figured I would then know FOR SURE that I was pregant when it happened, because I would get sore boobs or SOMETHING before I missed my period, but I just found out I am pregnant, and I really just thought my period was coming, it didn’t feel any different. In fact, I might have had less symptoms this month, which is pretty common among a lot of other gals on the pregnancy boards. I am now pretty convinced that early pregnancy symptoms don’t really exist, because I am still super early and I literally feel nothing. Zilch. Zero. The only way I even knew to test was because I was charting and my temp stayed elevated after I had some bleeding that I thought was my period. All “pregnancy symptoms” are before you miss your period are symptoms caused by progesterone, just plain old PMS. I am actually enjoying being “pregnant” right now (I put that in parentheses because I don’t feel any symptoms whatsoever) and not feeling like it–I am not too excited for the morning sickness to kick in! Haha.
Post # 12
I convince myself I’m pregnant 2-3 times a year and I’m on nuvaring which is pretty hard to screw up. This month I was slightly naseous like 5 days in a row and I was terrified I was pregnant. False alarm
Post # 13
But I totally know where you are coming from, I have definitely had my share of OMG I AM PREGNANT! I DIDN’T MISS A SINGLE PILL THIS MONTH, BUT I AM SO PREGNANT! Haha….then good ole AF arrives, such a blessing and a curse when you are trying to avoid a pregnancy. Just wait until you do start trying for a baby, then you REALLY develop a hatred toward AF!
Post # 14
@SapphireSun: Agree with this. Before the wedding, it was super important to us that we not take any chances and risk me getting pregnant, so we used both BC pill and condoms. Even after the wedding, we no longer use condoms, but still use BC pill and withdrawal, because we still aren’t ready for kids, but it wouldn’t be the end of the world if it happened. As we get more ready for kids, maybe we won’t use so many forms of protection, but it’s just not worth the stress.
Post # 15
I wait a week after I miss my period before I convince myself I am pregnant and then I take a pregnancy test… I am sure you are not pregnant and don’t need to continue to worry. Like all the bees are saying, the pill is a hromone that gives you pregnancy symptoms and period symptoms are also extremely similar to pregnancy symptoms.
Post # 16
I took the pill for about 9 years and never got pregnant. (Granted, for a part of that time I was not sexually active, as I went on it originally to help with heavy periods.)
I was off the pill for several months before we got pregnant. I quit taking it in March or so, and did not get pregnant until September.
So, relax…yes, it can happen, but it’s unlikely. Especially if you take it correctly.