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How do you women feel about this?
How soon did you post your pregnancy on facebook?
I am undecided. I have many, many friends in other states/even countries who I'd like to know, but I don't really talk to them outside of fb..
But I know some people's pregnancies cause drama, or they just don't like personal things like that on fb.
How did you ladies decide?
I've have many friends and family announce their pregancies on FB as soon as they get a positive test.
Me? I will wait until the after the 1st trimester. I don't want to announce it and have something go wrong and then have everyone asking about it all the time.
I would send them a personal message if it is still early in your pregnancy. I wouldn't post it in my news feed until after the 1st trimester. One of my good friends had to "untell" everyone about her pregnancy after she miscarried at 9 weeks. It was horrible.
I was super weary about this as well. I just feel like Facebook is yanking privacy out of our lives more and more. I ended up announcing on there mostly out of pressure from friends who wanted to post on my wall. And I didnt do it until about 27 weeks I think. And then of course I got the annoying "YAY I dont have to keep it quiet anymore!" comments. I hate those. Its almost like bragging saying "I knew and you didnt!" and that bothers me. rant over lol
oh that is sad :(
I am only 5 weeks and after hubby and I talked, we agreed to wait until the end of the first trimester as well. But we are telling family/close friends in person. I know that it will be hard to monitor facebook though. Even if you tell people in person, they want to congratulate you on fb!
We told close family and friends right away, in person. We only told people that we would feel comfortable also discussing a miscarriage with. We posted on fb around 10ish weeks. We had heard the heart beat and felt comfortable telling at that point. We also discussed the possibility of having to tell people about miscarriage, but felt we would rather have the support of family and friends if needed.
I def. would wait until you are at least 12 weeks just so you are in the "safe" zone....I miscarried at 9 weeks and I would have been even more devastated to unannounce our news on fb....congrats on your preganancy though!!
I think I would wait until after the first trimester, if you are worried about people mentioning something on facebook before you are ready, I would just shut down my wall until I announced (and of course, let the people you tell know that you are keeping it off of facebook for the time being).
I wouldn't post anything on FB until after the first trimester but I'd definitely tell friends and family about it long before then.
One of my friends had a misscarriage a few years ago. She had posted it on FB right after she found out so some of her FB friends were inquiring about the pregnancy. It was very hard for her to have to relive it over and over again with every FB inquiry that she received.
these days, i think it's inevitable that some people you know will find out on fb or some other social network. there are so many old friends and people i don't talk to on a regular basis that i wanted to know, so around 14 weeks i mentioned it "casually" (teehee) in my status -- something along the lines of "we are so excited for our little one on the way" we had told our families much earlier (around 7 weeks when they were in town for the holidays) and close friends between 10-12 weeks, so no one super close to us found out on fb. some of my fb friends who are more distant will still be like 'wow you're pregnant?!' when i mention my due date or something. i generally think it's a nice way to spread the word without making a zillion phone calls.
I didn't post anything on there until after my 20wk ultrasound and only did then because baby was healthy and I was so happy. (I don't think there IS a safe time because anything could happen at any moment.) I just posted:
Baby is healthy!
I didn't post anything until after the first trimester and after our wedding.
We told close family and a few close friends the day we found out because DH was deploying a couple of weeks later. We didnt announce anything on FB until we hit the 12 week mark. If it wouldn't have been for the deployment, we wouldn't have told a soul until we got through the first trimester.
Facebook has been my primary source for discovering people were pregnant. Now, none of my close friends are or have ever been, these are all people from high school or friends of friends that I wouldn't expect a phone call or email from anyways.
Anyways, I never saw like an 'I'm pregnant!' post from any of them. A few of them chose to put up belly shots tracking their progress, but that was like mid second trimester or later. Or they might post pics from a baby shower, or some other indirect clue tht they are pregnant. I've not yet seen an announcement on Facebook.
I haven't put anything on there. Some people have left comments on my page that anyone who chose to read my profile would guess that I was, but nothing from me directly. I am not keeping it a secret, I guess I just haven't felt compelled to put anything out there.
DH and I are not planning on having children, but if we were this is what I would do... First, I would tell DH (of course), then we would tell my parents, and then I would probably post something on Facebook sometime after the first trimester...although I'm sure I would have a hard time not letting little clues slip into my statuses.
Defintely not until after everyone we know finds out first and then only after the first trimester.
I usually find out that my FB friends are pregnant when they post pictures of an ultrasound, or the baby bump, which sounds like it would be after the first trimester.
I found out about one friend's wife's pregnancy after he posted pictures of the newborn, lol. We are not very close, though.
I posted after the first trimester because DH was like DO NOT POST ON FB!! But I pretty much told everyone the day after I found out. haha!
This was actually more of an issue for my mom, not me. She LOVES facebook. Not only did I make her wait until after my 12 week apt, but I made her wait a few days after so I could tell good friends and family more personally. Lots of my friends are facebook friends with her too, so pretty much everyone found out.
I had a "Baby Bumps" album that I started posting photos to once I was about 16 weeks BUT I changed the privacy settings so the only people who could see it were family members and close friends.
@artbee: hahaha that is so funny! My mom is like that too. She is on facebook all the time, and writes on my wall to ask me things, I'm like, "why don't you just call me?!" she is so funny.
After my sister got pregnant she posted on her status, "I have some exciting news but I'm not sure I can share it on fb!" hahaha I laughed so hard. She was so silly.
@Camrie - yeah I wanted to do a baby bump album, mostly at a request of a friend. I have a friend in Colorado who asked if I'd do a baby bump album for her so she could feel involved and I said I would. But I will probably wait until the first trimester is over to start posting any pics. I'm not showing now anyway!!
@camrie: I have a private album like that.LOL I put ultrasounds pics and baby room pics in there. I don't like EVERYONE seeing everything, so it's just family and a few friends, in other words, the ppl invited to my baby shower.
We haven't, and we're not going to make any grand announcements either, but once we hit the second trimester we won't be censoring our comments and will stop the gag order on friends and family in the know.
I'm way too afraid of miscarriages that I wouldn't facebook announce it until at least the first trimester. I'd want my doctor to be sure that we're viable before the big hoopla announcement sort of thing.
This makes me nervous so we definitely won't be announcing on fb for a long time. And when we do, it will most likely be in the form of a picture or something. We won't be finding out the sex so maybe something along the lines of "baby is healthy!" (God willing!!) after 20 week scan, like @MsMamaBear.
I waited until we found out the sex, so about week 18.
I would just be careful...I posted on FBk baby type comments at 12 weeks but then ended up delivering stillborn at 19 weeks. Then I would receive posts asking "how the baby was doing, boy or girl..." that sort of thing. It was horrible to see them the first couple of months after it happened. Next pregnancy I will not say anything on Fbk & people who are really close to me will find out after I get the ok from the anatomy scan...if they don't figure it out before.
I would probably announce at FB at 20 or so weeks, but not before then. I had a miscarriage around 6 wks (and didn't tell anyone but close family and friends about the pregnancy and did not post on FB) and it would have been SUPER awkward to post to the whole world about my miscarriage.
My friend's hubby announced on FB the second they found out. She was 4 or 5 weeks. She then became the type to post multiple updates a day about her symptoms. She had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. That was almost a month ago and she hasn't made any type of announcement so other than close friends and family everyone assumes she's still preggo. People are always posting on her wall about the baby. It's gotta be tough. Not sure what her plan is. This is also her 2nd miscarriage so I'm very surprised she announced it so early.
I highly doubt I will post an "announcement" once we are pregnant. I have seen lots of people do this, but it's just not my personality.
I'll likely just ignore it until someone posts something and then people start asking. Then I'll just comment so it doesn't come up in everyone's feed. I'm actually a rather private person and share very little through Facebook. I don't like people up in my business.
But I might start a bump album like Camrie, just for family and close friends if they ask.
I didn't post it on facebook until I was almost done with the first trimester. I also had an album with ultrasound pictures and baby bumps but it was private.
With Moose, I put stuff up after the first trimester. Since I lost long after the first trimester, it was the third trimester or 34 weeks and 2 days, it was really hard to put anything up that Moose died. So, with Wombat, I've said NOTHING about being pregnant and I'm over 36 weeks. Granted, I've told people who've messaged me to ask how I'm doing, but I do not believe that posting a pregnancy on FB is necessary or important. Frankly, I hate all the crap women put on their pages constantly telling people about their pregnancy or their kid is __ weeks old and weighs __ pounds. My Moose updates were funny meant to make people laugh as opposed to being factual updates.
I still have not made a FB "Announcement" about my pregnancy. I feel that those who "need" to know will find out through having actual conversations with me and seeing me face-to-face. I also don't feel the need to post a status update every time she kicks or something new happens. It's just not something that I find to be necessary, but that's just me...
We made our FB annoucement around the 12 week mark, but it wasn't until we told all of our immediate family members (parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.) in person first.
Well, my mom posted it on FB before we did... Long story, but there was some miscommunication and so she told everyone on her FB at 12.5 wks, before we had a chance to tell anyone on her side of the family.
But as for our own FB accounts, we didn't post anything until 16 wks. We "announced"-- but did it pretty jokingly/slyly-- not making a big deal about it, but getting the point across by making jokes about the due date, etc. On one hand, i think it's annoying when parents are all about the pregnancy and the baby, and don't talk about or post about anything else. On the other hand, I think it would be totally strange if we didn't say something at some point, and seemed to see pregnancy/the baby as "oh yeah, no big deal" and kept it off FB entirely as if it weren't important and huge in our lives. I've posted a couple of status updates on hearing the heartbeat and a hilarious pic from an ultrasound (a pic of the face-- the kid looks like a terminator or a robo baby with the mouth from Scream), but I keep pictures from ultrasounds, bump pictures, and more detailed stuff to the blog our families reads since they're the people that actually care about the more detailed stuff.
We were a little worried about announcing it too early, plus the doctor recomended to wait till week 12-16, and with us doing some tests right around week 12 we waited untill we got the results back to annouce. Well, we told the immidiate family in person first and then i put a little picutre on Facebook to share with the friends :)
We don't really tell anyone until the pregnancy is viable. Maybe week 24 or so. We usually tell our moms and maybe a close friend or two after the first trimester though.
I waited until I was 5 months along to mention anything of it on facebook I think. I didn't really talk about it though, only 2 posts. One telling everyone we were having a boy, and another that was just talking about waiting for the little guy to come.
Then again, it was an unexpected pregnancy and I didn't like talking about it compared to some parents who have waited years upon years to have a baby.
I'm in my 28th week and we still haven't posted anything on Facebook. Everyone important to us already knows, and our Facebook privacy settings are set very high, but I don't think either of us wants to put it out there until we have a healthy baby in our arms.
Two people already posted something on our pages, including my own father, but we deleted the posts and didn't make a big deal about them.
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