Pregnancy & Overreaction

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

nadnuk:  I’m sorry he didn’t get you any food.   That’s annoying.  Especially when you’re hungry and pregnant.  But he may have been thrown off because you kept on insisting on helping and doing things instead of taking it easy while pregnant.  That in itself can be confusing.  On the one hand you expected him to get you food, but on the other you were hauling ass working.  You could have easily stopped and had someone else help you out.

As for the emotions, unfortunately, it can be pretty much a roller coaster.  I know I probably drove my husband nuts with my inconsistent behavior and my in and out emotions.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I can’t really give you advice on handling the emotions…I just cried in my car because the boots and bras I tried on at Target didn’t fit right and I was disappointed.  I cry about something pretty much every day lately (and I was pretty emotionally even-keel pre-pregnancy).  But I would have been upset in your shoes, too – it’s not too much to ask that he think about your basic needs.  I’m sorry you had such a frustrating experience!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

One night I had my hands full of potatoes that I had rinsed off and was about to peel but something that DH did made me SO angry that I actually threw all of them onto the floor.. smashed everywhere. I was tired and stressed and instead of helping me cook dinner he took off into the living room to play watch tv. Pregnancy hormones are ROUGH!!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

LOL yes. Exactly. I get stubborn and don’t want to apologize, tough crap dude, I’m the one growing this human and dealing with all of the side effects! But once in a while when I really go over the top I do apologize. He’s been so patient. There have been nights, especially in the first trimester, when I wouldn’t even let him come near me and if he so much as laid a finger on my arm I’d practically jump out of my skin. Now I’m just big and uncomfortable and want to take over the whole bed lol.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I try so hard not to make DH guess what I need, but I still have had the “You should have known” break down every once in a while.   It usually is a close companion to the “You did it the wrong way break down.” I don’t even have the pregnancy excuse (yet)  He (like yours, OP) tries so hard sometimes.  He just tries in the wrong way and I get irrationally angry that he can’t read the right way to try.  I had a complete melt down about him not helping out around the house because he forgot to take out chicken (yes, melt down over chicken) and not only did he go get me chicken from the store, he then put away all the laundry.  It took a lot to swallow the “I don’t want you to put away laundry, I want you to take out the NSFW chicken when I ask you to!”   

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

nadnuk:  Lol… I’m not pregnant and that still would have bothered me…

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

nadnuk:  That was definitely tough in the beginning when I didn’t look pregnant and I didn’t have that many physical symptoms either. The only physical one I had was my skin was just so sensitive to touch, it was crazy. But I was moody as all get out. I cried. A lot. 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was extremely sick during the first trimester. My husband was an angel and did everything around the house. When I wasn’t at work, I was lying on the sofa or in bed, I was so nauseated and fatigued. He was so wonderful, which made it that much worse when I flipped out on him for not making the sausage and spaghetti that I had requested for dinner to my liking.

I think all pregnant women loose it on occassion with their significant others. It’s just important to remember that they are not mind readers. You can want them to anticipate your needs, but they are not going through the same things you are, so they probably won’t. Be straightforward about your expectations. In hindsight, you should have told him to have food waiting for you. Or you could have asked him to go get you a dish after you realized he hadn’t. Just try to control yourself and when you can’t, make sure you apologize and show you do appreciate him.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

nadnuk:  Have you guys talked about how it went down and what to do for future reference?  So that he gets food for you? I think one time when I was pregnant I cried because I wanted chinese food but all of the chinese restaurants were closed. I know first world problems.

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