Post # 1
I just closed another thread about people taking some pregnancy jokes too far, but I closed it so that we could continue to talk about what pregnancy jokes are in and of themselves “too far.” Some folks on that thread genuinely felt that talking about my pregnancy on social media was inappropriate and taboo, along the lines of putting up a picture of the giant poop I just took. While I disagree with that feeling, I certainly have my own notions of what is and is not appropriate to talk about. (the original thread was here http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-do-i-tactfully-even-humorously-draw-the-line-on-the-jokes) Keep in mind, I closed the thread because I don’t want to continue that same conversation — I want to start a new one. So let’s try and keep it fresh here.
Personally, I think that pregnancy can be hilarious and with the right attitude, there is very little that really crosses the line into Too Much Information. I always aim for funny — so when I post an ultrasound picture, I draw on it with Microsoft Paint first because I find other people’s ultrasound pics boring so I wanted to make mine interesting. (I drew a horrible clown-monster-face on one and was quite pleased with myself). If I talk about pregnancy symptoms, it’s not to complain about how they suck but to laugh about how ridiculous they are. Why does pregnancy make my tongue swollen? How does evolution cause that? I don’t know, but it does.
Things that I think are less than necessary and perhaps overshare: entire albums of ultrasound pictures — you probably don’t need to upload 89 pictures of essentially the same thing. But it doesn’t offend me if you do. Graphic descriptions or pictures of symptoms you’re suffering that aren’t so much amusing as they are, well, gross (example: my swollen tongue is funny, but you can bet that if I had hemmhorroids, I would be keeping that info to myself). Pictures of the baby crowning. Hour-by-hour updates of how dilated you are from the delivery room. How much tearing you had.
I’m sure there are more, but I just want to get the ball rolling on this discussion. What about belly pictures? I think if they’re done in a fun and funny way, they can be awesome (for example, I ALWAYS get a kick out of “giant pregnant chick pretending to strike a sexy pose when she doesn’t feel even remotely sexy”). But some people find them troubling.
I won’t be able to return to this thread for a couple of hours, so feel free to talk amongst yourselves until then!
Post # 3
It doesn’t really bother me when people post tons of ultrasound or belly pictures. I will rarely look at them (maybe a belly pic if I’m nosy) so I just ignore them. I can’t stand it when there’s gross updates on their pregnancy… I don’t need to know the details of your muscus plug or your water breaking. And please spare me the details of your c-section incision or the details of your labor experience.
Post # 4
@orchidaloha: I agree. I just try really hard to keep in mind what things I thought were gross BEFORE I was pregnant, and stay away from those. The word “mucous” in almost any context qualifies as gross, especially when it’s mucous that’s jammed up in your cervix. That doesn’t belong on facebook, haha.
Post # 5
@iarebridezilla: Exactly!! I felt myself resisting the urge to gag juty typing it lol. And reading that! I can’t wait to be pregnant and I’m totally aware that some parts of it are far from glamorous but I could do without hearing about other peoples cervix’s and shit. Especially since I use browse FB when I’m eating. Blegh.
Post # 6
Personally, I’m uncomfortable with ultrasound pictures all over the place and as your profile pic. I don’t want to see your uterus all over my news feed, thanks… I also don’t think any kind of bodily function is appropriate either. Like if baby is causing constipation or something. I don’t need to know. I’m also weirdly uncomfortable when people refer to the baby by it’s name on social media before the baby is even born yet. But that might just be a personal superstitious thing for me.
And I hate the labor play by play. I’ve seen people post how many centimeters their cervix is dilated on Facebook… no, just no.
Post # 7
@AstoriaK: Ultrasound =/= uterus. You can’t see anything but black and white outlines anyway.
Post # 8
I was one of the posters who said maybe you shouldn’t say something when you got offended by what someone else has said.
I don’t have issues with people posting about pregnancy on social media, hell I have been pregnant and had a baby. The only thing I have an issue with about pregnancy postings is the one that is going around right now posting a picture of a stillborn baby, now that bothers me quite a bit…
What I found was in your previous thread was that you found it was okay to joke about certain aspects of pregnancy that would make some feel very uncomfortable and when someone else decided to chime in along that lines to you it crossed the line. How is it you could joke about something but someone else couldn’t? Basically that was my beef on the last thread.
Post # 9
@vorpalette: hahahah well how about contents of uterus? I don’t mind seeing ultrasounds… I just don’t like being bombarded with them and as a profile pic.
Post # 10
@Sassygrn: Stillborns, yes! I can’t handle seeing those pictures on FB either. I recently had to unfriend someone who was posting pics of her stillborn niece every day.
Post # 11
@AstoriaK: Yeah, having kids at any stage as your profile photo is weird. I have tons of friends who do this and I don’t get it. I do find those “4D” ultrasounds creepy, though, and have to resist the urge to correct people when they call them that. Yes, it is 4D at the doctor’s office, because it’s a video, but when you get a still frame of it, that’s 3D. A photo cannot be 4D.
Post # 12
I personally wouldn’t post anything concerning my pregnancy on social media. If you know me in real life, you will know that I’m pregnant, and that’s it. We expose way too much shit on the Internet, and I think that’s something special that needs to stay at home. Which is why I didn’t even post that I was engaged or married on FB until I changed my status after we eloped.
I’m also scared people will take pictures of my kids off the Internet. Might be a little cray, but I am scared about that. That being said, you ain’t seeing my pee stick, my uterus, or me ANYWHERE NEAR a delivery room on social media.
Post # 13
The only things I dislike seeing on social networking are 4D ultrasounds (honestly, the others don’t bother me, but the 4D’s are freaky looking, sorry), pictures of the belly IF the woman is wearing next to nothing (just the shirt up to show exposed belly-adorable; wearing a bikini top and booty shorts, no), and constant posting about how the baby’s doing, what the baby’s craving, how many centimeters dilated one is while in labor, etc.
Post # 14
When my pregnant friends post pictures of their ultrasounds, I look at it once. I dont have kids, so maybe its different when your pregnant. But the fetus always looks the same in all the pictures. It does not matter how many different ultrasounds or whom the baby belongs too, they all just look the same. I dont mind pictures about how big the bump is or whatever. Just do not expect me to look at everything that they post.
As far as the updates, they can get annoying. If it is the “I couldn’t sleep last night because (baby name) keep kicking” thats fine but “I loved my breakfast this morning until (baby name) decided to see what it tasted like coming back up) thats gross.
If your friends dont like what you post all they have to do is go to the privacy settings and not allow your post to appear. Thats what I do. No offense intended but the only person that truly finds your pregnancy interesting is you. If I was pregnant i’m sure I would annoy my friends with my post but I can only expect them to fake interest for so long.
Post # 15
@iarebridezilla: I think anything related to bodily functions is too much information.
The whole too many pictures of babies/bellies I think is fine. I personally find it odd but at the end of the day let’s face it the majority of people you know couldn’t care less about your pregnancy or your baby so they just won’t be bothered to look at your pictures. And even the people close to you will probably have a quick look, so I mainly think it’s a waste of energy to upload more than one picture if any.
I dislike people who create profiles for their babies or unborn children or share these “my life has a meaning now I’m a mother” or “It’s the only job worth doing” or “now everything makes sense” ecc…
I just find it sad to burden a child with giving your life meaning and it’s sad to think that you weren’t able to have a happy meaningful life withouth being a parent.
Post # 16
I saw a positive pregnancy test on facebook. That was gross. And way too soon to be announcing.