- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Although lucky to be blessed with a wonderful family and friends, many of my fears revolve around my in laws finding out our news. DH has yet to tell them, in fact he doesn’t even talk to his parents anymore. Although eight hours away they have brought us both their fair share of drama by means of verbal abuse and manipulation that has gone on for a year now. I do not understand this but am thankful DH and I made the decision to keep safe and sane and cut them out of my life entirely. They do not have my number, know where we live now or anything about our lives in our new home. This has brought us so much peace! I’ve started seeing a support group for women who have gone through similar abuse and am feeling like my life is slowly healing from all that’s happened. DH already says he doesn’t want them anywhere near me or the baby as they don’t see their actions and words as abusive, and really don’t show any signs of changing in the future.
Because I am cut off from them I will probably not experience any lashing out from them when they do find out I am pregnant, probably through family members DH does decide to tell in the future. (we can only keep this baby secret for so long!) I pray that because of all this the abuse is over and I will never see them again. It still worries me though. Maybe more now because I am a mom to something so helpless.
During this first trimester, I am hoping to surround myself with peace and those who are happy for us. It makes me sad though and I wondered if anyone else on the pregnancy board is pregnant and dealing with something similar as well.
I know my baby is better off without them in our lives and remind myself of this daily. Hoping I can break the unhealthy cycle set in place my DH’s parents. I can only hope we can raise our baby with love and kindness and caring about others. I don’t know if anyone here can identify- but if so, you aren’t alone! Looking forward to be an amazing momma and to raise a loving family that is so different from the one DH grew up in!