Post # 1
Hi – I wanted some objective advice.
My wife and I are both 25 years old and feel ready to start TTC. I am currently in medical school and we were thinking that trying now will be most practical b/c my next year of medical school is very flexbile. (wife is not in school) I talked this over with some friends and family and they feel we are too young for babies. So, now I feel conflicted.
I would apprecite anyone here has any helpful input.
Post # 3
I believe that there is no “right” age to have kids. If you feel that you are ready and would like to try and concieve, then go right ahead :”]] Timing is only right if you feel it is right. I would not worry about what others think
Post # 4
i agree with @HotPinkPopTart. If you & your wife feel like you are ready for kids, then you should go for it! It isn’t up to anyone else!
Post # 5
How much does it matter to you what your family/friends think? I mean, if you and your wife are ready (financially and emotionally, etc.) then you should go for it! I don’t think your age is too young. There are 23 yr olds ready for babies and there are 32 yr olds not ready for a baby. If you both feel you are ready, then I wouldn’t let what family and friends say interfere with your plans. 🙂
Post # 6
What year of med school are you? One problem I see a lot is that since fourth year is more flexible, a lot of people think that’s the best time but forget that internship follows that. I saw a TON of people have babies, get dogs, etc. and then struggled because they had so little time following that.
Post # 7
The decision to have kids should be between you and your wife. I refuse to bring family into it (unless I was in a position where family is supporting me financially). If you feel ready and can afford it, definitely go for it! I would like to have my first child by the time I’m 25, but I don’t think that’s going to happen.
Post # 8
I just feel conflicted b/c we really feel ready to have a baby, but I don’t know too many people my age that are pregnant. Most of my friends will probably wait until early 30s.
So I feel like people with judge me. And I realize that I should do what is best for us, but it still bothers me.
Post # 9
Only you can know when you’re ready. I see no issues with conceiving at 25. If Darling Husband and I are in the right financial position at the year’s end (when we’ll be 25) I know we’ll be trying.
I know its different for each person, but it seems like you and your wife really want this and I think it would be sad not to follow through with starting your family when its right for you based on the (possibly unsubstantiated) notion that others may judge your decision.
Post # 10
If you are bothered that people will judge you because of your age, then perhaps you might not be mature enough to have a baby.
Honestly, it’s not up to anyone else and why would you care what people think?
Post # 11
@doctor12: I’m just curious, are ‘these friends’ of yours also in med school. I have a friend who is also in med school and her timeline is different from mine. She wants to finish school, get into a good residency and a good job and all. I understand that because years ago, I considered applying to med school and if I would have taken that path, I probably would have pushed off having a family so I could concentrate on school.
But things like life happens and it changes things. I know a friend who went through med school and had a kid. It is doable. Luckily for you, you are the one who is in med school and not your wife. I think if you are ready and your wife is ready, I would say do it.
I hope you figured out that I am a woman and right now, I’m in grad school and I myself am trying to figure out how to make a full time job, grad school and if I become pregnant work.
Good luck and I wouldn’t worry about what your friends think.
Post # 12
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@LacrosseBride: I don’t think it’s so much “other people”, but family. At least, that’s what I got from his post. And family can have a big impact on you, especially if you’re close.
Is there a reason your family thinks you’re too young? Perhaps they’d like to see you establish your career first, buy a home, etc. before you have kids? I’m surprised, usually you hear the horror stories of parents harassing their kids to have babies! I do agree with the others that if you and your wife want to start, then it’s your choice alone. Take what your families have to say into consideration, but ultimately it’s your choice. You never know how long it will take you to conceive, if you’ll have fertility issues, or even need to look into adoption. It can be a long road, and 25 is a good early start on that.
Post # 13
If you feel that you are ready than you are ready!!!! If you both are in agreement with having kids now then there is no reason to wait. I say go for it! being young parents definitely has it’s advantages for sure!!!!
Post # 14
@sand dollar: it doesn’t matter whether or not the “other people” are family. It’s not their decision, it’s not their life, and who cares what they think.
Post # 15
@LacrosseBride: I’m sorry, I think you are being a little rude here. I care about what my friends and family think. They are important to me. I will take their thoughts into consideration. Let’s try to stay on topic here and address the OP’s question.
Post # 16
I agree with everyone else, as long as you both are ready go for it. I understand feeling judged, my husband and I are planning on TTC next year so that we can have our first once I finish my BA. I will be turning 23 later in that year and my Darling Husband will be 26. Friends/Family think we’re crazy and that it is too soon. But we’re happy with our decision. I don’t think that age matters. My mum had me when she was 32 yet my dad was 60! Good luck with your decision making!