Post # 1
so my husband and I got married in December. We knew we wanted kids but we aren’t honeymooning until July (both teachers) so we decided we would wait until after the honeymoon to start actively trying. We are going to Hawaii for two weeks. We were also planning on going to Cancun for spring break. We’ve never had the same spring break before and wanted to do a trip together. Well, I was three days late and just knew I was pregnant. Sure enough, took a test (3 times) and got all positives. I am feeling so many feelings…shocked, nervous, scared, anxious, excited, happy, panicking…I’m going to cancel Cancun bc of Zika. I am hoping that I don’t have to cancel Hawaii. I will be about 6 months at that point. I will be 30 by the time the baby comes, husband will be 31. We both are stable in our careers, we already own a house, we’ve lived together for 4 years, been together for 8, traveler a ton together…it’s not the worst thing to get pregnant 6 months before we planned on it but we are both in just so much shock it’s hard to be happy. I didn’t sleep a wink last night bc I felt like my heart was going to beat out of my chest. I just don’t think we were totally ready to give up the flexibility that we have in our lives right now, but at the same time we are grown ups, we know what we were doing. I was just one day off on my charts and it only took one time…again it’s totally the shock right now. At the same time, I’m trying to feel lucky bc I know people that try for years and years and can’t get pregnant. So we should feel happy it happened so fast.
What are your stories? Do I still go to Hawaii? How to I cam down bc I still feel like my heart is going to pound out of my chest??
Post # 2
Congrats! Hawaii should be fine at 6 months. I traveled to Quebec, Maine, and Boston when I was 6 months pregnant last summer. I got tired pretty easily, and had to use the restroom a ton! I wouldn’t plan on doing a ton of walking (I did, and it was tough…my swollen feet were painful). If your plan is to mainly relax and do a few low intensity activities, you shold be fine!
Post # 3
Aww firstly, huge congratulations both on your marriage and pregnancy! I don’t have any personal experience in this area however I would imagine how you are feeling is totally normal. I expect give yourself some time to process the news and you will calm down, I think getting pregnant is one of those things that will always come as a bit of a shock since you can never time it 100% and even if you do – its still a huge change. Your post sounds as though you are both in the right place and will be really happy and excited once the news sinks in 🙂
PS Having never been pregnant I have no idea practically about holidaying at 6 months, however don’t people go on babymoons these days? You can have a honey-baby-moon combo
Post # 4
I’m in a similar situation. FI and I have our wedding planned for January, 2019. I’ve been on the pill since September and missed just one AND took a plan b the next day but here I am pregnant. I’m due three months before my wedding!
As you said, we’re adults and it’s not the end of the world to have this happen right now but it’s really not the best time at all. He was planning Costa Rica for his bachelor party and I was planning Puerto Rico. We also take a trip to Cancun every December for his company’s holiday party. We won’t be able to do any of that now nor go on a honeymoon and I feel the same way as you. I’m shocked and scared and somewhat sad to give up the freedom that I have in my life and our alone time together as a couple.
Post # 5
Congratulations! Don’t worry, all your fears/anxiety/etc are completely normal. I felt that way too – you just don’t always feel “ready” when you’re not actively trying. But it’s a blessing, I promise, not to have to struggle to get pregnant like some people do, and also not to have to actually figure out when the “right time” is (because there’s no such thing!) Your life is going to change in the most amazing way and you will look back and realize there was nothing to worry about. Keep the trip to Hawaii for sure – 6 months along is fine to travel! It’ll be a babymoon for you two 🙂 And don’t worry, as the baby gets older you will get your life back and travel, etc. will all be back on the table. We are taking our little ones to Mexico for spring break this year in fact, and we’ve taken alone trips too. You’re going to love every minute, promise 🙂
Post # 6
Take some deep breaths, it’ll be okay! You can definitely travel at 6 Months (assuming your pregnancy is low risk), and enjoy Hawaii!
You can get used to the lack of flexibility over the next 9 months. Baby has to cook in there!
It’ll be great!
Post # 7
Congrats! I know it’s soon, but it sounds like you are ready deep down! Even if you were actively trying, it’s still anxiety-inducing to get that “yes” test!!
Your Hawaii trip is fine… I went for my babymoon at 6 months and it was a dream. Just check with your doctor to make sure you’re good to travel.
I had to cancel a FL trip while pregnant because of Zika and I was upset because it was a family trip, but I knew it was best to be cautious.
Post # 8
You’ll have an amazing time in Hawaii, and it can be your honeymoon/babymoon. Cancel Cancun, of course, but you can go later down the line. Having a baby doesnt mean your life ends nor should your trips with your husband.
Post # 9
Cancelling Cancun because of zika would have been a good idea pregnant or not if you were trying to concieve this year. A relaxing Hawaiian vacation while pregnant sounds absolutely dreamy.
Post # 10
Congrats bee! A lovely holiday relaxing in Hawaii will probably be just what the doctor ordered! As OP’s have said, don’t plan anything too strenuous – just lots of relaxing, gentle swimming and virgin cocktails. And sleep!! I would have loved a holiday like that at 6 months 🙂 Enjoy!
Post # 11
First of all – congrats on your pregnancy!
I went to Hawaii when I was 29/30 weeks pregnant and it was perfect! I didn’t do some of the activities that I’d typically do in Hawaii, but it was still really enjoyable.
We did lots of swimming, lounging by the pool, walking on the beach, a couple milder hikes, a luau, random sightseeing, got professional photos taken, and of course did lots of eating ha ha. I personally didn’t really want to go on any of the boat excursions (but I’ve done them before, and I know a lot of other people still go while pregnant).
Honestly, the part that sucked the most for me was not being able to eat raw ahi tuna.
Make sure you find a place to stay with really comfy beds 🙂 We told our hotel that we were celebrating a baby and they did a bunch of cute little things for us (comped & delivered pregnancy friendly drinks to our room, gave us a kids toy & outfit, stocked our room with extra pillows for me).
Post # 12
I’m sure it’s overwhelming, but congratulations! I just got back from Hawaii, I was almost 7 months when I went. The flight was killer but once I was there I had an amazing time and was so happy I went. I think you will be too!
Post # 13
If you’re American Hawaii will be fine. If you’re Canadian, I’d look into insurance – my health insurance wouldn’t cover cross boarder trips past 28 weeks. Other than that, 6 months is a great time to travel.
Post # 14
If this helps any, we were actively TTC and once I got my BFP, I was freaking the F out. AND WE PLANNED IT!! Us too was a “one and done”. Like lets start NTNP, and 2 weeks later I was pregnant. We were SO lucky and I can only pray it is like that our next time around!
I don’t think you are ever “ready” to see that positive. I mean you are, but when it actually happens, you have a moment of OMGSH.
Post # 15
Congrats! Yes, still go to Hawaii. I felt great up until 28 weeks myself. Some people feel great all 40 weeks. Hawaii is just like traveling to any other state, except for a longer plane ride.
I would be bummed about Cancun, but there is time to go later.