Post # 1
So it seems we have no problem becoming pregnant…just keeping it that way. We were married in September last year and I found out I was pregnant a few months later. In early January this year, I had a miscarriage at nearly 7 weeks. Devastating.
Anyhoo, we’ve grieved and come to terms with what happened, and decided to start trying again. Just as before, as soon as we started trying, we were pregnant again. I am in the middle of my 6th week now (same time frame as when I miscarried back in Jan), and we are going in for our first appointment on Monday.
We talked about it, and we both feel like we don’t want to celebrate as crazily as we did the first time – we told everyone, we made a baby registry, etc. We are both excited, but this time the focus is totally on me being super careful – not lifting, careful food monitoring, progesterone supplements, early bloodwork, etc.
I think we’ll feel more like we can tell people and celebrate and plan more once we get past the first trimester…
Anyone else in our boat with us?
Post # 3
There’s a long family history of miscarriage in my family. Needless to say, when my DH and I found out we were pregnant he wanted to shout it from the rooftops and I had to explain to him why we needed to keep it quiet for a little while. I had some spotting at 8 weeks and thought that I had lost it (because I didn’t want to be hopeful that it had survived) and when we went to the doctor the next week, everything was fine.
You’ve only suffered one miscarriage, right? I’m sure that you’ll keep this one to term; but I completely understand your want to stay quiet. We’re 12 weeks right now and haven’t yet announced it!
I wish only the best for you
Post # 4
A very close friend of mine had a number of miscarriages and when she told me I think we cried and hugged for an hour. It was heart breaking to hear how much she and her husband had gone through. She got pregnant last summer and just had her son 2 weeks ago. He’s an absolute gift to their lives and hard fought for. I understand your hesitancy to tell people, I know she and her husband didn’t tell anyone until she was at least 4 months along just to be safe. Even at that, I don’t think she really posted anything about it on FB, etc and I totally understand why.
I know they had spoken to a fertility doctor and their follow up appointment was actually when she found out she was pregnant with their son. So I guess they didn’t need to follow that course of action after all!
Wishing you the best of luck and a very happy and healthy pregnancy!
Post # 5
It’s so hard to stay quiet! Especially since we don’t have kids yet, I want to ask people about how this or that went, but it certainly was an education the first time around trying to remember who all we had told and to make sure to give them some sort of email update. Awkward…
Thank you for your well-wishes! Jen
Post # 6
@fleetstreetpress: A lot of the women that are pregnant here (myself included) joined so we could ask the questions we had to women who had gone through it all already. It’s so much easier talking to these women because they don’t bias their answers; they have no clue who you are so they’re honest. That’s what I love about it the most. Stay here! I’m sure it will be easier not to spill the beans when all your questions are answered by us!
Post # 7
I pretty much have the same story as you. We TTC right after the wedding and got pregnant on the 2nd try. I miscarried at 6 weeks, but didn’t find out until 12 weeks because I had no symptoms (no bleeding, cramps, etc.). I ended up having to have 2 D&Cs, and when my doctor said we could TTC again we did and got pregnant on the first try.
I was TERRIFIED! I would call the doctor for any little thing. For my first pregnancy I didn’t tell people other then family, and I didn’t let myself by anything. I did the same this time for obvious reasons. After I reached my 12th week and saw the strong heart beat, I settled down a little bit. I’m 23 weeks now and so far so good. It’s a lot easier to feel like things are ok now b/c I’m able to feel her kicking.
Feel free to PM me if you want to talk or have any questions.
Post # 8
@fleetstreetpress: I totally get it. I miscarried last summer and we’ve been trying since to have a baby. Going thru so many fertility hurdles. I start fertility drugs this week and we’re pretty hopeful. But I know I will be an absolute wreck during the 1st trimester. I totally understand! Congrats!!!!! 🙂
Post # 9
Good luck, and congratulations!
Post # 10
I haven’t been pregnant (yet!!) so I can’t say that I’ve been there. But I’m sure that what you are going through is very difficult. You mentioned that you are going to your doctor appointment on Monday. I would definitely let the doc know your fears, and hopefully they will be open to taking phone calls/questions any time you have any concerns. That might make it a little easier for you as well.
Best of luck!
And like the previous poster mentioned, definitely stop by the baby boards and ask your questions here! it’s a great outlet to have when you don’t want to tell your friends/family about your pregnancy yet.
Post # 11
Congratulations and good luck! I had a loss and we’re still waiting to catch the egg. I don’t know what we will do when we get lucky again. I know that my DH will definitely want to keep things underwraps except with immediate family until we’re in the safe zone!
I encourage you to talk to others who have gone through the same experience for some support.
Wishing a happy and healthy nine months for you.