pregnant after MC- how cautious were you in the 1st tri?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is me right now – after 2 MC I am pretty cautious, even though I know medically I don’t need to be this cautious.  With my second MC I was also cautious and still miscarried.  I know its related more to the genetic development of the embryo, not my physical activity but I am still wary.  I’ve cut my bootcamp/stair running workouts to very light jogs and replaced with daily yoga.  I feel I’m not going to push myself too much in yoga and it can be gentle and relaxing while working on core strength and flexibility.  Plus breathing exercises are good preparation for birth.  DH is also pretty careful – we’ve only BD a couple times since the + test and we’re both ok with that.  He’s scared to hurt me, even though we know its not realistic, it helps us feel better if we can do everything in our power to not cause problems.  I’m on prometrium (progesterone) and that makes me feel like I have a bit of control as well.

I think its really about what you’re comfortable with.  Trying to eat well and take care of your body in a way you aren’t going to worry about will give you peace of mind.  I’ve got a countdown to the second trimester going and I’m grateful for each day I make it through still pregnant.

Sticky baby dust for you!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I miscarried in October 2012 at 4+ weeks and was devasted.  Became pregnant in February 2013 and was very scared and cautious.  I didn’t have sex, do any physical activity, and googled every odd symptom I had.  I drove myself crazy.  But I had to learn to relax.  I realized why I mc the first time had nothing to do with what I was/was not doing, there was an issue with the embryo.  I am know in my 39th week. Do what makes you comfortable, its ok.  Going through a mc leaves your brain frazzled and it gives us a mental/emotional beat down.   Hugs to uou

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@sunshinebee:  8.5 weeks, the farthest I’ve made it so far 🙂  walking will get you some fresh air and sunshine which always makes a girl feel good!  pm me if you need a buddy – I know this alot to get through emotionally.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I didn’t have a miscarriage, but I had a blighted ovum in January of this year. I got my BFP and I just knew something wasn’t right. I had some bleeding off and on. My HCG rose but didn’t double. It took 2 months of waiting before the doctor sent me for a D&C b/c all the tissue wouldn’t come out on its own.

It was hard to deal with, but I can only imagine how you ladies felt with a full miscarriage. My heart goes out to you.

I fell pregnant in May of this year (I’m almost 29 weeks now). I still check when I wipe, I still have the “what if” in the back of my mind. It’s normal to feel that way, but you take each day at a time. Do what feels comfortable to you. If you want to work out, work out. Exercise is good for you just don’t over-do it. If you are worried, then take it extra easy. Trust your instincts.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@sunshinebee:  I am exactly where you are at the moment! I’m being very cautious – if the worst is to happen again I want to know I did everything right so I don’t do that “what if it was that hike I took” thought spiral. Intellectually I know it won’t make much of a difference, but this is one aspect I do have control over. I’m paranoid about chemicals at the moment – insect spray, aerosol fumes, petrol fumes at the pump, and BPA – omg BPA. That one is driving me crazy. I’ve even managed to cut out caffeinated coffee, and that is something I didn’t actually think I could do completely. The other thing Ive been doing is prioritising rest. Every opportunity for rest that I get I jump on. I guess this is our reality until we get to a second tri, unfortunately!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not with regard to exercise, but just in general, I was actually LESS careful in the 1st tri after my MC than I was the first time around. My thinking was, I completely did everything by the book and obsessed about every detail, and I still MC’d. Women on crack, who smoke, who drink, who eat freaking blue cheese, have babies all the time, so maybe it’s better for me psychologically if I relax just a little bit. So I allowed myself to have caffiene in normal amounts (usually 2c of coffee a day), ate sushi, ate blue cheese, etc. I often skipped coffee because of nausea, but I didn’t worry so much about doing things by the book. And this LO is 20w today! Best of luck with everything, and bless you and your baby. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was VERY cautious the first tri after my missed MC. I stopped working out and DH and I abstained from sex until I hit 13 weeks. Was I being too cautious? Maybe. But I wasn’t ready for another MC knowing I didn’t do EVERYTHING to keep my baby safe. I also found out I had low progesterone levels early on so I was put on supplements and honestly believe that helped my baby survive 100%. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sunshinebee:  16 weeks tomorrow! FX for your sticky baby. And I definitely don’t think it’s a problem being too cautious, just dont let it consume all your thoughts!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I completely agree with @lalalalauren:  we abstained for the entire first trimester too but I also had some unexplained bleeding episodes around 6-7 weeks so we were instructed to abstain during that and then just continued to because we were so worried.  DH was just as cautious as I was so we both agreed we wanted to know we did everything in our power to keep this baby safe.  We know there was likely nothing we could have done to prevent the first miscarriage, but once you have gone through something like that it changes your perspective on pregnancy and you are much more aware of just how fragile it really is.  To me, drinking a soda or having sushi or deli meat wasn’t worth the risk of having to experience that again and even worse having to second guess myself if we miscarried again and wonder if it was because of something I ate or something we did.  I wanted to remove as many opportnities for myself to second guess just in case.  Luckily, this baby seems to be doing great, I will be 28 weeks tomorrow!  Congratulations on your pregnancy, I wish you a H&H 9 months!  Ultimately everyone is different and deals with these things differently.  If you feel better abstaining from things, do that and if you feel better treating everything like it is normal and there is nothing to worry about then that’s great too!

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