Post # 1
Long time lurker, first time poster and I am in need of some advice. My husband and I started to TTC in December 2013, and we just found out we’re pregnant! We’re both so excited and can’t wait to tell all of our family.
Here’s my dilema. Last week I was laid off from my job (they did not know I was pregnant). It was unexpected, but I had been looking for another job anyway because I was really unhappy. My husband was actually glad to hear I was laid off, just so I can focus on finding something I like. Financially, we could live off of just my husband’s income so I’m not worried about that. I do want to find a job I like though.
Some of our immediate family already knows I lost my job, but some still don’t know. I really don’t want our wonderful news to be dampered by the news of my job loss. I guess I’m trying to avoid saying “I was laid off, and I’m also pregnant!”. I just want them to be as happy as I am about my pregnancy.
So my question is, how do I break the news of my pregnancy to my family that doesn’t yet know I was laid off? I feel like I need to tell them, I don’t want them asking how my job is in 2 months and finding out I was laid off that long ago.
Any advice is appreciated bees!
Post # 3
@Beegirl2014: I don’t think that losing a job is equally as negative as bringing a baby into the world is positive! As soon as you’re ready to announce your pregnancy and have the opportunity to see everyone, I would just say, “I got laid off last week, but I probably wasn’t going to stay at that job forever anyway since we just found out I’m pregnant!” Honestly, I don’t think anyone will even remember you said anything about being laid off because they will be so excited! 🙂 Congrats, and good luck on the job search!
Post # 4
Assuming you are pretty newly pregnant, I would just make sure to spread the word that you were laid off to those that you think need to know that, and you can wait a few weeks to announce your pregnancy. Maybe you could post something on facebook asking for job leads if you are looking for a more natural way to let people know you lost your job ? You could restrict a FB post to those who you would want to know.
But I agree with beetee123: , I don’t think people will pay too much attention to your job loss once you let them know you’re pregnant! If anyone mentions it, you could just let them know that thankfully you are fortunate enough to be able to live on your husband’s salary alone.
Post # 5
Same exact thing happened to me due to federal funding cuts but we also knew it was a posibility. I was planning to be a SAHM and we started trying hoping timing would work and it didnt. I just wanted to work until baby was here for extra money but guess life had other ideas. I never got any negative comments but DH can also support us on just his salary and those who im not close to dont need to know. I dont think you will get any negative responses since you can still support a baby. Don’t stress and congrats!
Post # 6
Thank y’all so much for the words of advice. I’m thinking that not having a job right now is going to turn out for the best, since I’m assuming that I’ll start to have some morning sickness soon.
I’m going to tell my family this weekend and I’m sure they’ll be over the moon for us!
Post # 7
I’m in the SAME boat as you. And preggo at the same time as well!
To extended family that doesn’t matter, I am not telling them EITHER of the news. They can hear it from the grapevine.
To the close ones (aka grapevine) that matter but I don’t want them to have mixed feelings, I tell them “I’m looking for better opportunities. The job where I was didn’t really do it for me and with the new baby coming, this was the best time to go find something better before I get a big preggo belly and morning sickness and tiredness etc. which will make it harder on the job hunt.” Ppl seem to take that in stride.