Post # 1
I need help sorting out my feelings right now! My sister and I announced the same day that we were engaged/pregnant about 7 months ago (neither of us knew about each other’s news before). I was asked to be her maid of honour (with my 2 year old as flower girl) and gladly accepted. I’m now due in 6 weeks and the wedding is this Saturday. I was actually feeling really excited for the upcoming wedding and thought I’d done well by hosting a shower for her, attending and helping out at another shower, shopping and altering both my own and my daughter’s dresses, making my own appointments, attending the bachelorette as a huge preggo girl, and wholeheartedly taking on the toast to the bride and speech. I’ve never turned her down on anything she wanted done and thought she knew I was always available to her as much as I can be with a busy life right now. Here we are, 2 days before the wedding and I tried texting her with no response. I phoned in the evening and she was all cool with me and said that I was supposed to be her maid of honour but it didn’t feel like I was supportive of her tasks and thank goodness she had friends coming over tonight to help her with last minute details. I’m so hurt. I feel like my life isn’t being considered one bit right now but also have this huge guilty feeling like I should have done more. Sigh.
Post # 3
Sounds like you helped a ton. Especially with being pregnant and planning for that.
I would tell my sister those exact words you said about being hurt. She probably doesn’t understand how much that hurts to have your own sister say things that even hint you’re not being supportive enough.
Post # 4
It’s 2 days before the wedding and she’s probably Bridezilla-ing it up right now… theyre stressful times! It’s true that she should be considering your feelings too, being as far along as you are, but she’s probably just got a lot on her plate and feels like she can’t handle things and she’s snipping at the first available person who isn’t doing something for her at the time. I’m sure in 2 days she will love you all over again 🙂 Be strong!
Post # 5
Oh wow, that sucks… I agree that she’s probably lashing out due to stress.
Post # 6
oh dear – my Maid/Matron of Honor said she may try for a bub and therefore maybe preggers at my wedding and I dont give a hoot- apart from the fact that i will be so damn excited for her! My sister isnt even going to come to my wedding coz she is jealous and competitive. your sister sounds like a bridezilla – i dont get bridezillas – they scare me!!
Post # 7
You are not going to get much sense from her this week, (See that wall? You’d get more sense from that in honesty) and confronting her now will be just pointless because she is away on another planet. Bite your tongue for now, but after the wedding, I would take her to the side and tell her that she is extremely out of order and that you have been nothing but helpful, even though you are HEAVILY pregnant. You deserve and apology!