Post # 1
i come to you all for help and support and guidance. i am a regular poster but cannot post under my real username right now 🙁 my DH and i JUST got married, and this weekend i noticed i was 2 days late. i took my first ever pregnancy test and it came back positive. we are religious with our BC (pill taken correctly + condoms about 80% of the time) and are years away from wanting children.
i feel like my world has shattered, and yet there are so many lovely bees who are struggling to get pregnant. we do not own a home, are both in school (and both work full time) and are in no way ready financially or emotionally to start a family. i’ve always been extremely pro-choice, but i guess that’s because i’ve never thought i’d have to make the choice for myself? my husband and i are both at a loss for which way to turn.
has anyone ever had a similar experience? how did you handle it? any support possible would be greatly appreciated. thank you bees.
Post # 3
I’m so, so sorry 🙁
My inclination is to tell you to talk to a counselor or someone ASAP. A lot of schools have free counseling services. Remember, you don’t have to decide anything right now. You have some time to weigh your options. Only you know what is right for you. Don’t let the fact that some bees can’t get pregnany sway you either way.
Post # 4
I discovered I was pregnant 3 weeks after we decided to get married. We weren’t living together, had no health insurance and were on the “10 year plan” to having kids. I considered adoption as well as terminating my pregnancy. After much soul searching we decided to have the baby.
I can honestly say, it was not easy but we dealt with it together. There were a lot of tears and sacrifice. It’s not the ideal way to begin an already unstable situation, but it can be done. Our daughter has motivated me in ways I never thought possible. She made our life better.
I can only share my personal experience, but for us the struggle was worth it. We aren’t perfect but every day we make it work.
Post # 5
A wise woman once told me “if you wait until you’re ‘ready’ to have kids, you’ll never have them”.
If you want it to work, it can. Many of our parents and parents and grandparents got through similar situations.
My sister got pregnant while in college; and she now has 2 beautiful children she wouldn’t trade for the world! (And yes, she was scared sh!tless as well.)
Post # 6
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