Pregnant and terrified to miscarry again =( give me some lines of hope!

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

No personal experience, but I’ve studied human development. For reasons we don’t really understand, women are exrta fertile right after a miscarriage, and are very likely to have a successful pregnancy the second time around. I’ve known several people IRL who lost a baby, got pregnant soon after, and had a healthy baby.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Jennifferq:  I’m sure!

THis is from the Mayo Clinic

Miscarriage is usually a one-time occurrence. Most women who miscarry go on to have a healthy pregnancy after miscarriage. Less than 5 percent of women have two consecutive miscarriages, and only 1 percent have three or more consecutive miscarriages.

SO, statistically, your odds are very good!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

I have suffered from several miscarriages and I am currently 5 months pregnant with a healthy baby boy!!! It can be scary as shit to be pregnant again after a loss, but you just have to hope and pray that the baby is growing like it’s supposed to and relax because the stress is not good for your body (I know that is easier said than done though!). Know that most women who have a miscarriage go on to have a completely normal and successful second pregnancy! Lots of well-wishes and sticky baby dust for you!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congrats and good luck. I know many women who have miscarried and gone on to have healthy pregnancies after. It’s hard not to worry (I’ve never had a m/c and I am constantly worried) but telling myself that whatever happens is out of my control helps me relax a little bit. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

something similar happened to me in Jan.  I went in at 9w4d and we were told there was no heartbeat and the baby stopped growing at 7w6d.  I felt the same way you did when I found out I was pregnant again.  I was terrified that something was going to go wrong.  I went for an early u/s at 6w and we were able to see and hear the hb, however, it was the longest 4w waiting to go back again.  I’m currently 18w pregnant with a baby girl and everything has been progressing smoothly!  I’d say try not to worry, but we all know that’s easier said than done.  Best of luck to you!! 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Jennifferq:  I totally understand. I  had a MC in October at 6 weeks and am now 34 weeks.  My Midwife was very understanding, we did betas and I had two early ultrasounds, that helped. Is there any way to talk to your Dr. About your concerns? I know that early ultrasound helped reassure me. Good luck and tons of sticky baby dust to you! 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

@Jennifferq:  I, too, had a miscarriage in February amd then got pregnant immediately following.  I am now 23 weeks and, truth be told, am still nervous about losing this one even though my first pregnancy resulted in a healthy little girl.  The miscarriage really messed me up.  But, while miscarriages are extremely common, healthy births are even more so – about 4x more likely!  

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Is it possible for you to get bloodwork without seeing the doctor so you can be reassured with hcg levels – or even get an ultrasound for your peace of mind?  I know my doc well so I can ask his nurses to get a requisition for testing without actually seeing him as long as I have a follow up appointment.

I’m sure that would be very anxiety-causing and I wish you all the best, take it easy and pamper yourself 🙂  Statistics are on your side so hopefully it goes well this time. hugs!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Jennifferq:  I get where you are coming from although I haven’t had a miscarriage. I am pregnant with our first child. I work at a clinic so if I push hard enough I can get an appointment, but I am nervous becuase my mother (granted back in the 80s) had several miscarriages before I came into the world, so it makes me scared, even though endo is not hereditary.

I second a PP and get your HCG levels tested if possible. Good luck, and I hope it is a healthy, sticky baby!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My daughter in law miscarried her second baby on Christmas Day. I felt so, so sorry for her and my son as we sat for hours in the hospital that night only for there to be such an unhappy end to it.

However, she was pregnant again before she had another period and is now 31 weeks with a healthy baby boy. I don’t know how it works in the US but our particular health trust in the UK makes sure that anyone who has had an early miscarriage gets an internal ultrasound at 8 weeks in the next pregnancy. Which is so much better than having to wait until the standard 12 week scan.

The very best of luck to you. Early miscarriage is very common but is by no means evidence that your next pregnancy will be other than successful and I have several friends who have gone on to have healthy, bouncing babies afterwards.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I got pregnant last July and had my first appointment at 10 weeks. There was no heartbeat and the baby had died at 9 weeks. I know exactly how you feel – it was the most devastating experience of my life. 

After my period returned, I got pregnant on my 4th cycle and am currently 25 weeks along. 

To be honest with you, I thought I wouldn’t be able to enjoy this pregnancy because of my previous miscarriage, but I just kept reminding myself that chances were slim I’d have another. This time I booked an early appointment at 7 weeks to see the heartbeat, and that made me feel so much better. I had a lovely doctor who saw me again at 10 weeks. Seeing the baby at that visit was a big deal, as it meant passing the time when I’d miscarried before.

For me, the worry didn’t 100% go away until 18 weeks, when the baby started moving everyday. Since then, I’ve really relaxed and been able to enjoy the pregnancy.

Good luck to you!

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