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That sounds like it wouldn't be a fun time for you at all! It would be difficult to tough out imho. Can you two work out a compromise?
My husband and I initially had low-key plans to just go to Fogo de Chao and get our grub on, but the more we think about it the less we want to drive into the city. We are most likely going to a restaurant closer to our house and coming back well before midnight!
@Marriedandlovingit: I think my hubby WOULD compromise, but I just feel bad because he has the weekend off and to him, going out, drinking, and crashing would be fun. I don't want him to have a boring night because of me. But I am also not really open to the idea of him going and me staying in because it's our first NYE as a married couple, and it's our anniversary.
I told DH that if he wants to drink and party on NYE then I will come with him, and I will be the designated driver for the night. Afterall, it is our last NYE before children, so he deserves to do something fun. What I would really like to do though is just hang out at home and have a quiet night in. We have a tradition from the last few years of fondue on NYE, so I'd like to melt a pot full of cheesy goodness at home and snuggle on the couch. So far, it looks like DH is onboard with my idea, but we'll see if he changes his mind.
We are going to dinner with 2 other couples and then everyone is coming back to our house to watch the ball drop. Best idea ever! No big party, but DH still gets a couple drinking buddies, and we have spare beds for our friends :)
We are going to be boring. We are staying home. Hubby has already joked that he will wake me up when the ball drops since I'll most likely be asleep on the couch. Of course, is more of a homebody and would like to stay in rather than talk to people. He will probably play some video games or watch movies that scare me.
NYE for us will likely be:
Staying in with friends eating Chinese food and sparkling cider for me. I don't mind if others drink, but I want to be in the comforts of my own home.
OMG, that party sounds awful. I mean, I like to drink and party as much as the next person, but 150-200 people in one place just sounds crazy crowded. Add to that the fact that you are sleeping on the floor and won't be able to go to sleep until people leave and it sounds like a total nightmare, even for a non pregnant person. So I can't in good conscience advise you just to tough it out and go.
I know the idea of splitting up on NYE is not attractive to you, but could you compromise? Maybe go out to a nice dinner, and then he could head out later in the evening? Or, what about getting a hotel room close to your SIL's loft? (I don't know what city she lives in but I get the impression it's a downtown area- there has to be a hotel nearby). Then you could make an appearance, leave when you got tired/bored, and your husband could join you later.
We are staying in. Our baby is only 3 months old, too young for a sitter, even if we could find one.
We still don't have plans, and I'm not all about making any either. So if nothing pops up that we both want to do, we'll probably end up going out to dinner and chilling.
And the party doesn't sound like a great time, especially if you can't sit down.
I guess my NYE will be really awkward. I just got a positive yesterday! I'll probably just say I'm not feeling well so that's why I'm not drinking.
That party does not sound fun at all when you're pregnant, maybe you guys could go for an hour or so and then get a nice hotel room? Either that or hubs is going to have to come to his senses that a pregnant lady is not sleeping onthe floor with 100 other people and stay home! Good luck!
We just made plans to go a friend's house for a nice dinner and watching the ball drop. It is my kind of NYE, pregnant or not pregnant. I volunteered to bring sparkling drinks (champagne every one else and sparking cider for me) and I am planning on making a Sachertorte for dessert.
I agree with most other posters - low key, nights in or at least close to home are the way to go this year.
I don't blame you for not wanting to go. Personally I don't love crowded parties where I don't know anyone, and I really don't like sleeping anywhere besides a bed, pregnant or not. I can sympathize, and I'd probably suggest splitting up if I were you, or compromising and at least driving home afterwards.
I think I can top your night though.. I will be going to a large, black tie wedding. Hubby bought a tux, and I had to buy a super formal maternity gown. I'm a bit nervous about being on my feet a lot, and/or not having as much fun as I would non-pregnant, but I didn't even consider not going because it's going to be such a big event, and it's our last NYE without kids. We will, however, be driving home afterwards, and I got kind of annoyed when hubby was surprised that I'd want to leave around 12:30. I'm 8 months pregnant! I'm going to be exhausted! I think I am going to be pretty jealous of all the people out there in sweats, eating chinese food on their couches. :)
I will probably get at home in sweats eating junk food with my mom. lol. DH, I'm sure, will probably get some drinks with the guys in the stop back home. (I'm in the states visiting family, he's at home in England.)
I have no desire to go out. My best friend wanted me to but I told her I didn't need a moment like Knocked Up where the bouncer won't let them into the bar. You know "Can't have a bunch of old, pregnant bitches runnin around." lol
@MissDareDevil: Did I miss a post where you got taken off bed rest? If so, that's great!
Otherwise, how could you even go? And wouldn't your husband want to stay home and celebrate with you? Doesn't that automatically mean junk food in sweats for you?
DH and I are going to his aunt's cabin on the Cheseapeake Bay. We got invited to a couple of parties in Philly, but really wasn't excited about being the only sober chick at a party, especially since we haven't told our friends yet. Luckily, DH was completely on board with just the two of us spending a quiet night together, since it will be our last one.
I'm on the other side of this since I'm throwing a NYE party and two preggo's are invited and have RSVP'd yes. Honestly I would not be offended or hurt at all if they don't come, even though I would love to spend NYE with them. I totally understand that it's no fun to be around drunk people when you can't drink and on top of that you're probably tired and feel like passing out at 8pm.
And it's not like you can easily send your DH to the party while you stay home, it's NYE! You want to be together, it's not a night out with the guys or anything.
If I were you, I would probably want to skip the masquerade party as well. That is, unless I could get my DH to promise me that we could leave at around midnight and I could sleep in my own bed.
DH has to work, so I will be home alone. I will probably be asleep before midnight. So boring! It's really weird for me becasue prior to pregnancy, I was a pretty big partier. Oh well...
Im a vet covering emergeny oncall, from new years eve morning to new years day night-
my husband is visiting his dad (his parents separated so he has to go to a different country to see him)- so Ill be all alone with the sick pups and cats!
Yes I hear you, I was also a big partier- so I may as well be working NYE if Im not drinking!! HAHA
Yes I hear you, I was also a big partier- so I may as well be working NYE if Im not drinking!! HAHA
Also- is the sparkilng cider to which you guys are referring more like sparkling applejuice?
My husbands friends are having a party at their house... I agreed to go but I'm really not excited about it. I've always been a big drinker and it's going to be really hard for me to be around a bunch of drunk people I dont even know that well still. I'll definitely be the only sober one... I'm so jealous of the girls whose hubbies are staying in with them :(
@Quietserenity: nope, never got taken off of it. Hubby is usually very supportive and encourages me to relax, but i just think he is having a hard time missing his own sister's party (whom he is very close to). He is encouraging me to go and telling me it will be okay if i relax the whole day before. when i told him the reasons why i didn't think it was a great idea for us us to go, he said "well of course you're gonna have a bad time with that attitude."
thanks for all the responses bees! i think a good convo with my hubs is in order.
@MissDareDevil: I was wondering about that!
I mean, as much as it sucks, if you're on bedrest, you're ON bedrest, you can't just pick and choose the things you want to skip, and he should understand that! I guess if it's okay with you, he could go alone, but for me personally, I just would think this would be one of those sacrifices you both would make for your health and the baby's!
I agree a good talk is in order, let us know how it turns out!
I forgot that you are on bed rest! It is way too risky to go out on New Years. He needs to understand, there is just no other way around that one.
I guess our plans have changed. We are going to our friends' house for a small party. I'm not crazy about going so far on New Years, but we both agree that we will leave if I'm not feeling well as I've been unpredictable these days.
I agree with Quietserenity, I forgot you were on bedrest! Definitely don't go, it is not worth the health risks to you and baby! A good conversation is in order for sure.
@cacamillis: Yes sparkling cider is like sparkling apple juice. It comes in a bottle that looks just liek a champagene bottle with the pop cork and everything.
Didn't your doc put you on bed rest? I don't think it's a good idea for you to go to a loud crowded "city" NYE's party then either. If it was just a small shingding at a friend's house that's a different thing.
If he really really wants to go maybe stop by for 2 hours then go home (before it gets too rowdy) for the ball drop at home?
We're going over to our good friend's for a small party and they only live like 15 minutes away. But there'll only be a handful of people and I plan to take a nap during the day. I'll be drinking sparkling grape juice that co-worker was considerate enough to get me instead of wine this year!
I think @regberadaisy has a really good point. Yes, it's an hour drive, but you guys could get there right when the party starts, hang out for a couple of hours and then head home before the craziness sets in. I think that's a good compromise.
I understand that you're trying to be supportive for your husband since he wants to go, but you need to talk to him about how you feel about it. Going to parties when you're pregnant is just not as fun as it is when you can drink, and being around drunk people gets annoying quick.
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My hubby and I have been invited to a formal masquerade party for NYE this year. His little sister and her boyfriend live in a ginormous loft in the city and are having a party with 100-150 people--complete with masks and a balloon drop. I know my hubby really wants to go, but it just does not sound fun to me.
First of all, I can't drink and it will be party full of really drunk people (crazy group of people). Second of all, we most likely will have to stay the night because they live a good hour from our house, and hubby won't want to drive home at 1-2 in the morning. Staying on someone's floor does NOT sound fun. Thirdly, it will be so crowded, I doubt I would even be able to sit down. I don't really want to spend NYE standing and being uncomfortable in a crowded loft with drunk peopele I don't know.
I don't want to sound like a debbie downer, but I just wish my hubby would understand and that he would be okay with us just chilling at home or with our family. Any other preggo bees plan on going to a pretty big party with lots of alcohol? Are you just going to tough it out for your DH's sake? What would you do in this situation?