Post # 1
Hey bees! I know it’s probably kind of asking to get pregnant by having unprotected sex (we pull out) but just wanted to know how it went for you. Did you get pregnant before your wedding? How did your family react??
Post # 3
I think it depends on your family!
One of my cousins got pregnant with no intention of marrying the father, and everyone’s thrilled about her baby!
But DH’s sister got pregnant before the wedding, and despite being 30, her family couldn’t be happy about it until after she was married!
Post # 4
@Semperfisweety: I was horrified at the thought of getting pregnant before the wedding. I have a mondo-catholic, super strict, and aften snoody family who might have cast me under a bridge. We used the pill + pulled out. Every time I opened the box of tampons, I felt like there was a 12ft banner shouting, “Congratulations, you’re not pregnant!” Literally the day we got married was the biggest sigh of relief.
If I had gotten pregnant, would I have kept the baby? Absolutely. If I wasn’t open to a having baby, I wouldn’t have had sex. It’s pretty simple math to me.
Post # 5
@OnceUponATime: I couldn’t have said it better!!
We ended up having a wedding night baby and people still do the count and narrow eyes and make jokes. Even though we planned our wedding for over a year and already lived together. People are strange in their priorities.
Post # 6
I did! But we are 29 (30 for him in 10 days) and were ready. I would have liked to wait the couple months until after the wedding (mostly so I could drink at the wedding) but it wasn’t a big deal.
Ours families were all really happy. Even DH’s ultra-religious mother (my parents and his father are not).
I had been on BCP and I went off in July, so that’s when it happened. I was 12 weeks at the wedding and not showing. My mom was mostly worried about me fitting into my dress (it was very fitted until mid thigh).
I don’t think I would have liked being 7 or 8 months pregnant at the wedding though!
Post # 7
@Semperfisweety: My husband and I had 2 babies before we were married, we were engaged shortly before we found out about the first one, which put off the wedding and the announcement for that matter, and we ended up having the second shortly after. Everyone in our lives were thrilled about both of them! EXCEPT my parents. Since we hadnt announced our engagement when he proposed ( he proposed without a ring which i knew my parents wouldnt approve i didnt care but they would have.) They were affraid that he was going to leave me. WHich i kept telling them was stupid to worry about n tht he never would. They didnt see it that way though. It depend on the family, my parents are nuts. lol Congrats!
Post # 8
My mother was pregnant when they got married. I wonder if they got married just because I was on the way. Huge mistake for them! They had a courthouse wedding.
Post # 9
I was 7 months pregnant when DH proposed and our daughter was 3 years old when we got married. It was a 100% planned pregnancy. Everybody was very happy for us and didn’t get one negative comment. Of course, having children before getting married is almost the norm where I live.
Post # 10
@iloverocks: My parents got married because I was on the way! It didn’t work out. And ironically, my dad (who I didn’t see much bc my mom had full custody) always said that he would make sure to attend my high school graduation, college graduation, and wedding- “in that order!” A baby was out of the question- a little hypocritical- yup!
My sister and her FI got pregnant and my dad wasn’t happy about it at all! He didn’t even talk to my sister for a month or two he was so angry. The baby is almost 1 year old, my sister is getting married in 6 months and he seems to have gotten over it now.
Post # 11
It isn’t that I would be super freaked about getting pregnant before marriage, but that I already have my wedding dress and I signed a contract that it would be my dress no matter what (including pregnancy!) sooo yeah…hoping that no mistakes are made with the birth control.
Post # 12
DH and I had been avoiding my fertile days/ pulling out for about 8-9 months. We had major baby fever and couldn’t wait to start TTC.
About 9 months before our wedding date, our best friends had their first son (Dec 2010). That shot our fever through the roof. We had one little unprotected mishap during a time when I normally wouldn’t be fertile (I had been ovulating around CD 17-18, and we had sex on CD 10. Well.. I ovulated a few days early that month, and although it was still 5 days before my actual ovulation, I got pregnant in January 2011.
Our wedding date was Sept 2011.
We were both elated. Honestly, we were not really concerned with baby coming so much earlier than we expected.
Soooo, that being said, we decided to post-pone the wedding.
Our family was SO excited. His parents, my parents. They fully supported us and the fact that we decided to put the wedding off until June 2012.
I don’t regret having our daughter first for a single second. I was just as excited to find a dress for her to wear at our wedding, as my own.
We were surrounded by so many happy, supportive people.
Honestly, if your partner can pull out correctly, using the withdrawal method is pretty darn effected in my experience.