Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids just found out she is pregnant-Yay! I am VERY happy for her, however now I am worried!
You see, she is due 9 days after my wedding, I didnt want to tell her what to do but I am certain she will not feel like standing all day long when she is due any day!
When I brought up that maybe she would prefer attending as a guest instead so she can feel more comfortable and not have to worry about being up all day long and she thought I was kicking her out of the wedding because she was pregnant-which is not at all what I wanted!
We finally just decided to take it as it goes. she still wants to buy a bridesmaid dress and make it if she can but my fiance is worried about the wedding party being offsides now.
NOT sure what to do! Am I being ridiculous? Help!
Post # 3
How funny. The exact same thing happened to me. I have no idea what to think. When she told me, I thought “Oh, great! ….wait. What?” lol
Only thing is, I felt bad suggesting she be a guest. I tried to talk to her about it but she brushed me off so I dunno…
Post # 4
I don’t think you’re being ridiculous and it sounds like you’re being very understanding.
I think taking it as it goes is probably best. Honestly, that late in the pregnancy many things could happen: she could be on bedrest, she could be in labor, she could have had the baby already!
It sounds like she wants to be there for you on your day if she can and I think that speaks volumes about your relationship. Maybe just have a backup plan if the bridesmaids/groomsmen end up being uneven. I have an uneven number and will just have two bridesmaids walk down the aisle with one groomsman.
Post # 5
Same thing happened to me! We talked about it, and she ended up dropping out and attending as a guest. I think she was more comfortable that way. She had the baby about 2 weeks after the wedding.
Post # 6
So what if the wedding party isn’t even? Ours isn’t, we have it to FH’s brother walks with both my sisters. It’ll all work out!
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
An uneven bridal party really isn’t a big deal- ours was 2 girls/3 guys and was fine. I would just wait and see what happens- she’d only need to stand for the ceremony, and if she has to sit down during it, that’s okay, too.
Post # 8
i say be kind with her and dont give her a lot of activities that day 🙂
Post # 9
I think you ask people to be in your wedding party because they play an important role in your life.
So what if she has the baby the day before the wedding and can’t come…no big deal. What a great story it will be to tell people for years to come. I’m sure she will be able to help you with planning throughout the wedding planning process, and as such, she probably deserves the honour of remaining a bridesmaid (if she wants it).
I am probably biased because I was so close with my 4 girls that I would have done anything for them, but I just don’t see why this is really an issue. So what if your “numbers” are uneven. Will it make your marriage unstable? No. Will it ruin your pictures? No.
Sorry – didn’t mean for this post to come off so strongly, but I just don’t get why people get hung up on having “even numbers” when it comes to potentially cutting an important person from your wedding party. If she wants to be there, let her. You chose her for a reason.
Post # 10
On of my BM is going to be 8 months pregnant at my wedding – but she still wants to do it. I gave her the option to bow out if she wanted and she didn’t so she’s full steam ahead.
I would let her decide but not kick her out. If she is too tired to stand she can still walk down the aisle then have a seat, no one is going to think ‘omg, how tacky the pregnant woman is sitting down.’
The biggest issue we have had wasn’t finding a dress, we found a wonderful flowing one that almost exactly matches the fitted ones the other bridesmaids are wearing…. but her breasts… oh my. They are up to an F she said, from a C. She’s going to the seamstress this weekend to see about what we can do about letting it out or adding fabric.
Post # 11
My cousin was pregnant at my wedding, so I offered to have her walk in to the ceremony last, and as I entered with my dad & step-dad, she could take a seat in the first row if she felt like she needed to sit down. Nobody would notice, she would be comfortable, and I could still have my beautiful sweet cousin with me on my wedding day.