Post # 1
I have a small issue with my wedding. One of my bridesmaids just informed me that she’s pregnant. Awesome news, except that she is experiencing some really bad nausea and she doesn’t feel like she’d be able to perform her duties as a bridesmaid to the best of her ability, so she has decided to backout as my bridesmaid. I totally understand.
Now, I’m wondering if I should find a replacement for her, or stick with uneven bridesmaids to groomsmen. I’ll have 4 girls to 5 guys. I’m not sure if anyone believes in superstition, but my mom was telling me that 4 is an unlucky number in Chinese because it sounds very close to the word death. I guess I’m not too superstitious, but I’m not sure how I feel about uneven pairs. It’s too late to order another dress because the wedding is less than 3 weeks away. The other alternative is to take the maid of honor’s dress and give it to the backup and then find a unique dress for her.
What should I do? What would you do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory
I’d just stick with 4. I’m not very superstitious though. It might be hard to ask someone else this late in the game. Good luck with whatever you decide!
Post # 4
With so few weeks left for your wedding, I would concentrate on other aspects and leave things as are.
Post # 5
I was thinking about that possibility the other day since I have a bridesmaid who will be 35 weeks pregnant on wedding day. My conclusion was to have an uneven number if she was unable to attend. My bridesmaids are wearing a pink dress of their own choosing, so a dress wouldn’t be an issue if I did choose a backup. I just don’t see the need of replacing her if something happens, but we are also not doing a lot of formalities so it would be fine for my wedding.
Post # 6
I don’t think you have to find a replacement unless there is someone on your possible-bridesmaids list that you couldn’t have as a bridesmaid since you already chose your girls. It won’t be weird and I’ve seen pictures of uneven bridal parties–you can hardly tell that a bridesmaid/groomsman does not have a partner!
Post # 7
I would leave it as is. It’s not a play or a choreographed dance that needs an understudy. Think about the girl who would be the replacement? Don’t you think she’d feel a little second rate, knowing she was only there because someone else couldn’t be?
Post # 9
Thanks for all the responses! I think I’m just going to stick with the 4 also. Less of a headache than trying to find another dress and another bridesmaid.
Post # 10
I had 4 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen for our wedding. We are not very superstitious even though I am Asian, he is not ;o) When you think about it, 4 + 4 = 8, a great number ;o)
Post # 11
I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Since you have a few weeks still you may talked to the BM that stepped down and tell her that if she is feeling better by then you would be happy to have her. Who knows, maybe she will be one of those girls who get sick for a week or 2 and then its over. Also, if you don’t care, tell her that if she still wants to be in the wedding, but isnt up to all the other stuff that she may feel obligated to, that she can miss it. You seem understanding with all of it so whatever happens will be fine.. but dont sress and find a “replacement”