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    tobemurphy10    October 10, 2010   MA

    About three weeks ago I found out I was pregnant and have been singing the blues since. My FI is really excited, but I have not got there yet--mostly because I was really excited about the wedding and now with the thought of me being huge--I would just rather hide! No girl pictures themselves prego at their wedding! Help!

    My friends keep suggesting to move the date, up for back. But I don't want to change the date. We have planned for a year for this and our date is 10-10-10. (We tried so hard to get that date). I am due in early December which will put me around 7 months! UUGH!!!

    I know this is a gift and I should be happy, but I just don't feel that way yet (I probably sound terrible). I just need to vent..Do I sound completely crazy?

     
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    Miss Sparklespaniel    November 13, 2010   VIC, Australia

    First of all, Congratulations and no you don't sound crazy at all! It must be a bit of a shock and it'll take a little while for you to change your mental image of yourself on your wedding day. Every girl has that image of themselves for their big day and if it unexpected includes a preggo tummy it's going to take some adjusting - but you'll be fine! If you want to stick to your date go for it! It'll be nice for your baby to be there with you and you can get some fantastic maternity wedding gowns now!

     
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    princessleia    June 25, 2011   Baltimore

    Congrats! First of all, you don't sound crazy. As much as I want to have children soon, I think it would definitely be an initial shock and disappointment that I would look pregnant at my wedding. As much as people might say it's immature and you're not focusing on the fact that you are creating a life, I think it is a natural reaction - at least initially. I would be concerned if you continued to feel this way throughout your pregnancy (if you decide to keep it, which is totally not for us to judge). I think once you get over the initial shock of it, you'll realize that it is a blessing and there are tons of brides that look totally cute pregnant in their wedding dress! And you would be surprised how many awesome gowns they make for expectant mothers. I found these pics just by googling! So cute! Anyways, congrats and breathe!

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    Pregnant bride...unexpected :  wedding Pregnantwedding1

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    Awww it's ok hun. Congratulations! You will look beautiful on your wedding day cuz you'll have that glow.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    Totally natural reaction. This changes how you imagined your wedding day. Disappointment is completely understandable.

    In order to cope, you just need to change the way you envision your day. You will still be absolutely gorgeous and absolutely in love, so just factor in the concept that your wedding day will reflect your blooming family.

    Of course you have choices in terms of your wedding date, but if your original vision for your wedding is already changing, I'd hate for you to lose your dream wedding date, too.

    Congratulations and good luck!

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    You have to decide what's the best approach for you.

    Someone very close to me moved up her wedding by several months so that she wouldn't have to deal with questions and a baby bump, but that sounds like it's less important to you then the wedding date that you've picked.

    Honestly, at 7 months, you should be feeling pretty great and will be more adjusted to the idea of your pregnancy.  You won't be feeling sick, your skin will be glowing, and you'll have a great energy level.  The only drawbacks will be a baby bump and inability to drink during the reception.

    There are several other pregnant brides here, and I hope they chime in with their support too!

    In the meantime, congratulations on both accounts!  If you feel up to it, please post to the baby list thread!

     
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    rlsulli1598@verizon.net       oregon

    When you are in your second trimester is the best time for you to have your wedding because that is when you will have the most energy.  And you will have that gorgeous pregnancy glow.  Enjoy your pregnancy and your wedding.  Just let the thoughts go, and think about that wonderful miracle that the two of you have created!  :)

     
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    Both of my SILs were 7 months pregnant at their weddings.  The first found a flowy dress and camoflaged her baby bump. The second wore a beautiful brown velvet form-fitting dress and really celebrated it!  You have a lot of time to think about what you want, but really the only thing that would change is your dress.  It's totally doable, and if you really want to stick with your date, then go for it!  What's important is what will matter to you in ten, twenty years.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    Great response, @MightySapphire.

     
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    beachbrideamy    September 18, 2010   DW beach wedding

    It's totally natural to feel the way you do.  Your wedding will still be beautiful, and I don't think it's necessary to move it up just for appearance's sake.  You're the bride, and it's your day!

     

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