(Closed) Pregnant but not yet a Mrs.

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Someone very close to me went through this.  We found that people were incredibly respectful about keeping the 2 events seperate.  With your wedding coming up so soon, the fact remains that you’ll be married before you have the baby, and on your wedding day you and your partner will be the sole focus.

Yeah, it sucks not to be able to drink, but in our case the bride had her “champagne” poured before everyone else’s and she just enjoyed a sparkling cider.  You’ll still have a great time, and even better if your past all the sick feeling of the first trimester.

Good luck and congratulations on both accounts!!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Congrats!!  A friend of mine was almost 4 months pregnant at her wedding.  They only told their parents and closest friends and ask everyone to keep the pregnancy under wraps until after the wedding.  They wanted people to focus on one event at a time.  She wasn’t really showing, so she fit in her dress and no one noticed. 

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You should read Mrs. Dumpling’s posts. She was pregnant at her wedding, and she still fitted into her dress and by the look of her photos had a wonderful time at her wedding!

And congratulations on your pregnancy!!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

A friend of mine was about 5 months along at her wedding.  She had a flowy dress and wasn’t showing much, so most of the people didn’t even notice.  She still looked beautiful and had a great time. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Both of my SILs were 7 months pregnant at their wedding.  You can go one of two ways with that.  Either you can keep it quiet or you could tell everyone, wear a super form-fitting dress to show it off, and really celebrate it!  Our family was very supportive of both of them (even though my parents were less than enthused about the pregnancies).  One of my SILs wore a dress that hid her bump, the other wore a brown velvet form-fitting dress that showcased her beautiful bump.  So it’s up to you!  Don’t worry too much about it, no matter what you’ll have a good time at your wedding!

Post # 9
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316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I will be 4 and a half months pregnant at my wedding next Saturday.  We haven’t told anybody since we are trying to keep the 2 events separate from each other.  Let me tell you, it was hard keeping it secret on my bachelorette cruise. I had to order virgin drinks when nobody was around.  Also, planning basically stopped during my 1st trimester since I was sick all of the time but now it has picked back up and I am ready to be wed.  If you won’t be showing at the time of your wedding, there might not be a need to share with anybody until after. If you will be showing, I bet most people will be supportive and respectful either way.  Don’t worry about the drinking thing. Just enjoy your husband and have a good time. Congratulations and try to relax and enjoy that you have 2 special moments coming so soon!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Check out Mrs. Dumplings recaps. If I remember correctly, she was about 4 months pregnant at her wedding!

Post # 12
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510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My best friend was 5 months pregnant at her wedding and I don’t think anyone knew except the people that she specifically told.  They told people to keep the pregnancy under wraps and by the time the wedding happened, she wasn’t showing at all…she had a nice flowy type dress.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I was 3 months pregnant at our wedding and you couldn’t tell in my trumpet dress.

My family and his are big drinkers and I thought it would be annoying to be around all drunk people but it was fine I hardly noticed until the end of the night when I was with my immediate family, but they were so ridiculous I had a good laugh.

I had horrible “morning” sickness and the flu for our wedding and I was fine for the most part until about 1 am. The adrenaline and excitement of your big day will keep you going. You’ll be fine!

Post # 14
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I was 6 weeks pregnant at my wedding and at first I was really freaked out bc we weren’t planning on trying till after the wedding. 

One thing to keep in mind is that anxiety can be a common side effect of pregnancy and it could be making this harder for your emotionally and contributing to your mind being in “overdrive”.  I had minor anxiety issues and would wake up all hours of the night freaking out during the first trimester but it went away later on.

I will say that not drinking at my wedding made everyone suspicious. So I suggest coming up with a plan for that. Consider having faux drinks/ sparkling cider/ or non-alcoholic beer (I recommend Odouls amber) on hand to keep suspicions at bay.

I wish you the best of luck and congratulations on both the wedding and the baby! 

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I would just try to stay as calm as possible until you know how far along you are, then just plan accordingly.  Is there any way to move the wedding up a little bit?  That’s what my friends did when she found out she was pregnant during her engagement.

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