Post # 1
My FI and I are getting married this summer and plan to TTC sometime at the end of this year in September – December. If we get pregnant around this time, I will be pregnant around Thanksgiving and Christmas and am really nervous about hiding my pregnancy from FI’s family. FI and I have a pretty superficial relationship with his family and because of this, we really want to keep my pregnancy a secret until I am 12-14 weeks pregnant. His family drinks and I’m afraid that they will be suspicious if I don’t drink. Has anyone hidden a pregnancy around the holidays? Any advice?
Post # 2
missorange : Just tell them you are on antibiotics and aren’t allowed to drink.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t worry about it this far out. If they do offer you a drink, maybe have your husband make it for you so he can just fix you water or a soda. Or tell them you’re watching your weight and don’t want to drink calories when there are so many tasty holiday foods around.
Post # 4
Have your husband make your “drinks” or have a glass of wine and just pretend to drink it, pour some out in the bathroom gradually. Say you can’t because you’re on antibiotics…
Post # 5
Antibiotics / weight loss / health kick / etc.
Just make up a story and stick to it. If it would help, make a show now of saying that you aren’t drinking at the moment etc so it won’t seem like a big change for you to not drink.
Post # 7
ClaudiaKishi : I do normally drink. I’m going to have to start refusing drinks now!
karamellokoala : I’m also naturally very thin so the calorie thing would throw everyone off, lol.
Is the antibiotic thing a give away? I feel like if I heard a woman say that I would assume she was pregnant in the back of my head, haha.
Post # 8
I would definitely go the route of having your husband or yourself fix your drinks. If someone offers to make you one, you can come up with an excuse and say you’ll fix yourself one in just a bit. Then just nurse the same cup that evening. I doubt most people will be paying that close attention to what you’re drinking.
Post # 9
Honestly, if someone normally drank and wasn’t drinking at all the thought of pregnancy would absolutely cross my mind. My friend hosted a party and I noticed immediately that she wasn’t drinking as she normally at least has some wine. I didn’t ask because I didn’t want to put her in an awkward situation and also because I would hate it if someone asked me but it turned out she was pregnant.
Is his family the type that would bring it up? Would it really be that bad is they suspected even if you didn’t right out tell them? If no, just go with the antibiotics thing. What do you normally drink? Could you just pretend to make a mixed drink? Perhaps just hold onto a beer if you really want to make sure they don’t get suspicious?
Post # 10
missorange : Honestly, you might be worrying a bit too much at this point. I really hope you get your BFP fast, but it’s possible you won’t. Just take it one day at a time!
Post # 11
Just ask for a glass of wine and wet your lips on occasion pretending to drink it.
Wait till you get the BFP, then worry about this stuff. Added stress doesn’t help TTC
Post # 12
I was pregnant during the holidays. Three options, really: 1) pour real drinks for yourself and pretend to drink them. Have your husband drink them or dump them out when no one is looking. 2)drink soda water with a lime in it and let people assume it is a mixed drink. 3) say you are taking cold medicine, like sudafed. This is more believable if you actually have a cold (which is actually fairly likely if you are pregnant in wintertime), or have had the foresight to complain about an imaginary cold in the days leading up to the event. Personally, I suggest mix and matching all of the above strategies so no one gets suspicious.
Post # 13
missorange : I dealt with this last holiday season and blamed not drinking on a migraine at Thanksgiving and recovering from the flu at Christmas. My sister helped cover for me at my mom’s and “forgot” the wine and pretended to spike my coffee (yes, my family likes to drink.)
Post # 14
missorange : I wouldn’t worry about it until the situation actually comes up. While some people get pregnant the first try, most don’t, so I wouldn’t worry about trying to hide a holiday pregnancy until you’re actually pregnant.
If you are pregnant, I’d use the “sick and on meds” excuse OR just go ahead and get a glass of wine and pretend to drink it. Pour a little out when no one is looking. Even that being said, when I’m around someone who drinks regularly and then turns it down it’s usually a sure sign they’re pregnant. A friend of mine totally got busted at a recent ladies night by turning down wine (and she ALWAYS drinks wine).
Post # 15
missorange : I found out I was pregnant a couple weeks before Thanksgiving and definitely wasn’t ready for people to know. It’s very easy to fake it. You can nurse a glass of beer and pour out some when no ones looking. You can empty a beer can or bottle and fill it with water. You can have virgin cocktails that look like real ones. You can substitute pomegranate or cherry juice for wine in a wine glass. You can make excuses like you are coming down with something, or are hungover from the night before or are on medication that does not mix with alcohol. This is a common “problem” for newly pregnant bees and has been asked lots of times if you want to search old threads. Best of luck!