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Well what are your concerns specifically? Will you have the baby before your wedding?
I am not pregnant (from what I know!). We are already married (private civil marriage) ... we are now planning a Church ceremony and a simple reception (budget of 8-9k for 200 people) ...
(WARNING Bee's: this part may be TMI)
However we are not using any protection. I do not want to get back in birth control (recently got off of it, the pill) & Condoms arent used ... a method that has around 60% effectiveness is used...
I know NOT SMART.
(now MORE TMI)
Yes there recently was a ooops moment and now IDK what to do.
morning after pill? or just let it be...
that is why I want to see how much it affected the plans...
date pushed back?! went on with it? canceled alltogether?!
this is sort of an embarrasing post! SORRY!
I wouldn't advise the morning after pill, but that's just me. I mean, your already married, and not on birth control. if you ARE pregnant, would you be upset? it looks like your date is far out, you'd have the baby before your wedding. i wouldn't push your date back any further.
lol I've been planning my wedding since 2007..well not really but I got pregnant in december 2008 and had my daughter in August of 09. My only concern was looking fat in the dress...but I am 6 months PP and I think I look ok...I am no where near perfect and what I want to be looking like but I am not going to stress it. Atleast when the baby is still inside it's easier! It's much harder when they are out! I exclusively breastfeed so my daughter comes EVERYWHERE with me- she came to buy my dress, the food tastings, photographer meetings..and next week the cake tasting lol. It's all good though..I wouldn't have it any other way
I'd take the Morning After Pill. You have 36 hours I believe? But, I also don't have any moral or religious issues with it. So if you're like, Catholic, and don't believe in hormonal birth control pills or condoms, then obviously the morning after pill would be the same sort of thing for you. But i'd run to the pharmacy and get one asap. Call and see who's on staff. I think some pharmacists can legally deny you that pill based on their own beliefs, so call up and see if you can swing by and purchase it.
And...i'd use this as a valuable lesson learned. I'm guessing you're using the Pull Out method or something as equally ineffective. Which means if you don't learn your lesson this time and start wrapping it up or charting your ovulation and avoiding days you could get pregnant until you are ready for a baby, even though you're already married.
Unless you and your husband are OK having a baby right now, that is.
i have a friend who was approximately 4 months pregs at her wedding...they knew they wanted to start a family right away so it didn't make too much of a difference, they just happened to get pregnant on the first try (as luck would have it!). She was also lucky that her dress was a corset back and she looked stunning....
So I think it is less about the wedding plans per say, and more about the, " are you guys ready to have a baby now?"...Plus, you would have the baby a decent amount in advance of a June 2011 wedding...so yeah...I dont think the wedding is so much a factor as it is about wanting to have a baby now.
So funny this is just brought up! My FI's cousin(who is like a brother to him) was supposed to have his wedding in Jamacia in July. I was really annoyed we had to pay to crap ton of money to go watch them get married! They might have been saving money by doing a destination wedding, but I had to pay $5,000 for us to go! I was just finally starting to get excited to go( I figured I better look at it like a vacation-there's nothing I can do to change the situation and all that matters is that they are happy!)
Don't you friggin know they just told us all they are prego and have cancelled the Jamacia wedding and they are now having is local! Once again I was kinda ticked! (not about they having a baby..What could be better than a baby!) But my first thought was are you serious?! You couldn't take extra procautions to make sure this didn't happen after you have made everyone pay to go to your destination wedding?! All in all I am now very excited but at first I was not so happy!
But having said all that! It is what it is! No reason to get upset! A baby is a blessing and even if it seems to have come at a bad time in the end we will all be happy to have a little one running around!
Obviously my situation is differnt than yours, but there is nothing you can do to change it so just take a deep breathe and feel blessed!
I had a friend who became pregnant while planning a wedding. She was due in October and the original wedding date was the July before that. She was sooo brave to do this but she postponed the wedding until that December. So, she planned her wedding, and had a 2 month old by the time it came around. Its do-able, but it was a huge stressor, as I'm sure you can imagine. Also, she freakin looked amazing in a wedding dress only 2 months later, how does that happen? Lol.
I could never advice you as to what to do about the chance that you may be prego. I'd let whatever happen be. If I was pregnant, I'd amend my wedding plans to fit into the new schedule. I'd probably scale back a LOT.
What does your FI say?
Yes.. it wouldnt be the end of the world. Money wise we would have to push the wedding back.
eeeek.
that is where I am stuck.
I live in a society where the morning after pill is okay but BEING Catholic and especially being so involved right now with the process of convalidating our marriage (getting married through the Catholic church) ... I might feel guilty for going and taking something like that.
YIKES.
thanks for hearing me out and I hope this isnt TMI but this is for anyone that may come accross it and being as "whatever" about those situations. LESSON LEARNED.
Think and pray about it. The morning after pill is birth control--so how do you feel about that? Go off that. Like, I don't feel guilty about taking birth control so I wouldn't feel guilty about the morning after pill but I am NOT catholic and the morning after pill just may not be up your alley. It supposedly interferes before any implantation occurs. Maybe before the egg gets fertilized, it is hard to say because nobody knows 100%. That is a personal decision with your husband, just think long and hard.
How does your husband feel about possibly having a baby?
Can you look at the time you had the oops and see if you were even ovulating around that time? It's possible it's just NOT the right time of month for you to conceive! Which of course sounds like it'd be ideal =]
I would take the morning after pill if you don't want to risk it. I have heard that if you are Pregnant, it won't harm the fetus, but if you aren't pregnant yet, it will just kill off the sperm preventing you from getting pregnant. So I don't think you should feel too guilty about it.
I wouldn't base weather your ready for a baby or not on your wedding. You need to decide that first. If there was no wedding being planned & you got pregnant; would you keep it or take the pill to stop it? That's what you need to decide. It shouldn't be about convienience. It should be about the baby. Then decide about your wedding.
I guess I have that decided.
I just wanted to see if this HAS happened to anyone & if anything had to change or what their experience was like.
The morning after pill absoutly will not terminate an existing pregnancy, so if you're thinking about that, don't worry about it. it has a very high success rate, and won't harm you or the fetus if you are pregnant.
I am confused what you mean by an "oops moment"
If you are not using brith control and don't want to get pregnant isn't every time you have sex an oops moment??
I am not sure what you should do if you are pregnant. But my advice to prevent pregnancy is to use a condom, they're not that bad.
As I was taught, condoms are 78% effective when used correctly. I think you should consider using them. Even if they're 60%, any protection is better than no protection.
Thank you for all of your opinions. I am pretty informed on birth control options. the main reason why we didnt use them .. was because we are already married and if it happened it happened.
ALL WITHIN LAST MONTH we decided to get married again.. this time infront of our complete family and closest friends and in our Church. So these are new plans.
it JUST occured to me.. "hey we need to GO BACK ON SOMETHING to be safer so we can plan the wedding with no added stress" ... because YES im in love with the idea of being a parent & cant wait .. but being pregnant WOULD mean $ may have to be used elsewhere ... other than ALL FOR THE WEDDING payments.
BUT IN THE CASE THAT .. thats too late...
i just needed some opinions.
I am planning my wedding and I just found out that I am pregnant. Besides the morning sickness and being a little tired, nothing has really changed as far as planning. OUr wedding will be in May and I will be around 4 months then so I don't even think I will be showing. We are, however, not telling anyone until after the wedding just to be sure the baby is okay.. We were planning on TTC right away so the few months don't really make a difference. I just see it as a great blessing.
Congrats pinkmonkee, i admire you!
well I didnt take the morning after pill.
so we will see what happens!?
I hope things work out just the way you want them too Justlikeheaven!
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So has anyone or do you know of anyone that has gotten pregnant WHILE planning a wedding?
If so, what did they do!?!!!