(Closed) Pregnant during wedding planning

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
73 posts
Worker bee

Well what are your concerns specifically? Will you have the baby before your wedding?

Post # 5
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I wouldn’t advise the morning after pill, but that’s just me.  I mean, your already married, and not on birth control.  if you ARE pregnant, would you be upset?  it looks like your date is far out, you’d have the baby before your wedding.  i wouldn’t push your date back any further. 

Post # 6
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

lol I’ve been planning my wedding since 2007..well not really but I got pregnant in december 2008 and had my daughter in August of 09. My only concern was looking fat in the dress…but I am 6 months PP and I think I look ok…I am no where near perfect and what I want to be looking like but I am not going to stress it. Atleast when the baby is still inside it’s easier! It’s much harder when they are out! I exclusively breastfeed so my daughter comes EVERYWHERE with me- she came to buy my dress, the food tastings, photographer meetings..and next week the cake tasting lol. It’s all good though..I wouldn’t have it any other way

Post # 7
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d take the Morning After Pill. You have 36 hours I believe? But, I also don’t have any moral or religious issues with it. So if you’re like, Catholic, and don’t believe in hormonal birth control pills or condoms, then obviously the morning after pill would be the same sort of thing for you. But i’d run to the pharmacy and get one asap. Call and see who’s on staff. I think some pharmacists can legally deny you that pill based on their own beliefs, so call up and see if you can swing by and purchase it.

And…i’d use this as a valuable lesson learned. I’m guessing you’re using the Pull Out method or something as equally ineffective. Which means if you don’t learn your lesson this time and start wrapping it up or charting your ovulation and avoiding days you could get pregnant until you are ready for a baby, even though you’re already married. 

Unless you and your husband are OK having a baby right now, that is.

Post # 8
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i have a friend who was approximately 4 months pregs at her wedding…they knew they wanted to start a family right away so it didn’t make too much of a difference, they just happened to get pregnant on the first try (as luck would have it!).  She was also lucky that her dress was a corset back and she looked stunning….

So I think it is less about the wedding plans per say, and more about the, ” are you guys ready to have a baby now?”…Plus, you would have the baby a decent amount in advance of a June 2011 wedding…so yeah…I dont think the wedding is so much a factor as it is about wanting to have a baby now.

Post # 9
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So funny this is just brought up!  My FI’s cousin(who is like a brother to him) was supposed to have his wedding in Jamacia in July.  I was really annoyed we had to pay to crap ton of money to go watch them get married!  They might have been saving money by doing a destination wedding, but I had to pay $5,000 for us to go!  I was just finally starting to get excited to go( I figured I better look at it like a vacation-there’s nothing I can do to change the situation and all that matters is that they are happy!)

Don’t you friggin know they just told us all they are prego and have cancelled the Jamacia wedding and they are now having is local!  Once again I was kinda ticked! (not about they having a baby..What could be better than a baby!) But my first thought was are you serious?!  You couldn’t take extra procautions to make sure this didn’t happen after you have made everyone pay to go to your destination wedding?!  All in all I am now very excited but at first I was not so happy! 

But having said all that!  It is what it is!  No reason to get upset!  A baby is a blessing and even if it seems to have come at a bad time in the end we will all be happy to have a little one running around!

Obviously my situation is differnt than yours, but there is nothing you can do to change it so just take a deep breathe and feel blessed!

Post # 10
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had a friend who became pregnant while planning a wedding.  She was due in October and the original wedding date was the July before that.  She was sooo brave to do this but she postponed the wedding until that December.  So, she planned her wedding, and had a 2 month old by the time it came around.  Its do-able, but it was a huge stressor, as I’m sure you can imagine.  Also, she freakin looked amazing in a wedding dress only 2 months later, how does that happen? Lol.

I could never advice you as to what to do about the chance that you may be prego.  I’d let whatever happen be.  If I was pregnant, I’d amend my wedding plans to fit into the new schedule.  I’d probably scale back a LOT. 

What does your Fiance say? 

Post # 12
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Think and pray about it. The morning after pill is birth control–so how do you feel about that? Go off that. Like, I don’t feel guilty about taking birth control so I wouldn’t feel guilty about the morning after pill but I am NOT catholic and the morning after pill just may not be up your alley. It supposedly interferes before any implantation occurs. Maybe before the egg gets fertilized, it is hard to say because nobody knows 100%. That is a personal decision with your husband, just think long and hard.

How does your husband feel about possibly having a baby?

Can you look at the time you had the oops and see if you were even ovulating around that time? It’s possible it’s just NOT the right time of month for you to conceive! Which of course sounds like it’d be ideal =]

Post # 13
4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would take the morning after pill if you don’t want to risk it. I have heard that if you are Pregnant, it won’t harm the fetus, but if you aren’t pregnant yet, it will just kill off the sperm preventing you from getting pregnant. So I don’t think you should feel too guilty about it.

Post # 14
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t base weather your ready for a baby or not on your wedding. You need to decide that first. If there was no wedding being planned & you got pregnant; would you keep it or take the pill to stop it? That’s what you need to decide. It shouldn’t be about convienience. It should be about the baby. Then decide about your wedding.

Post # 16
14 posts

The morning after pill absoutly will not terminate an existing pregnancy, so if you’re thinking about that, don’t worry about it.  it has a very high success rate, and won’t harm you or the fetus if you are pregnant. 

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