Post # 1
Seems to be a lot of to-be brides with child on the boards! So I’m wondering how many people already have kids, who are pregnant, will be for the wedding, and who are not pregnant?
How did you feel about it, either way?
Post # 3
I have 2 children. It is what it is, I got pregnant with my son before I was married and there wasnt anything I could do about that. I deffinately wasnt going to run to the alter because I was having a baby.
Both my children are with my FI, weve been together for 6 years. Its like we are already married really, we just have been waiting until we could afford the wedding we wanted.
Post # 4
No kids here but my family is VERY traditional so I would never hear the end of it if I were to be pregnant first. My FI is also very much against it.
Post # 5
@yanamari: I have kids, my youngest is 17. Neither I nor my fianace’ is bothered by it. I will be having my daughter as my MOH. I think it is a personal choice, and it is not taboo or anything to have children or be pregnant on your wedding day.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2014 - Ceremony: St Patrick's Basilica Reception: Southern Cross Ballroom, Esplanade Hotel Fremantle
We had our first before the wedding :), she’s 15 months old now. It doesn’t bother us at all as we were going to get married anyway, but our little girl surprised us earlier. We have decided not to have a sibling for her until after the wedding though ^^, and at least we have our flower girl now as she will be almost 3 by our wedding date <3.
Post # 7
We had our son on May 23rd 2011, and we are getting married on September 28th 2013. I am sooooo excited that my son is going to be at the wedding!!! He is going to be our ring bearer and he is going to sit with us throughout dinner and the cake cutting and everything. I am so happy I get to share one of the best days of my life (the other best day was when he was born) with my favorite person in the world!
Post # 8
I don’t have a problem with pregnant brides, but I personally believe that having a child with someone is a much bigger committment than marriage. As a result, I find TTC for the wedding to be tough to understand (unless the bride is older or will have fertility problems), but since most people don’t plan to be pregnant for a wedding, I usually assume the pregnancy wasn’t unplanned.
Then again, my opinions mean nothing if this works for the family. I don’t want to be a pregnant bride when the time comes, though.
Post # 9
I would not want to be pregnant on my wedding day! I feel as though there’s some much stress that comes along with it, and I would not want to put my baby at risk! Also, I would like to enjoy myself (have a few drinks, dance all night) without having to worry about being pregnant. However, after the wedding we may start thinking about having a family.
Post # 10
@yanamari: I’ll be just over 17 weeks pregnant on our wedding day, which is on February 14 Valentine’s Day this year. We decided to get married earlier than we would’ve if we weren’t pregnant, only 3 months from engagement to wedding, but are both excited that our baby will be a special part of our day.
Post # 11
I will be 16 weeks at my wedding (God-willing). We started charting before the wedding and conceived in December. We thought it would take many months. There is a possibility we could move overseas for an uncertain amount of time in December (hope not) and we wanted to make sure our child was born in the USA. It doesn’t bother me or any of my family members, or his side that we be pregnant. We probably won’t even announce until right before or right after the wedding. We are only “out” to parents and siblings due to a previous mc and wanting the support if something were to happen. Luckily I have a huge rib cage and had to order my Maggie gown 2 sizes up, so it will work without alterations.
Post # 12
We are common law married, but not really telling our friends and family because we don’t want them to freak lol or to diminish the value of our wedding in 2014. However, we’re not planning on havings kids until 2014-2015. I would like to conceive on our wedding/mini moon. FI said last night that he hopes I’m pregnant and that I announce it at the wedding. lol.. I’m like uhm, NOthx.
Post # 13
We are the only ones getting married before having kids in our family. I think having kids first is more common in my country. My oldes brother has two kids, and has been with his SO for 23 years without marriage.
Post # 14
@Cookie86: I forgot to mention that in my post. I live in the United States, where generally the middle and upper classes get married. As a result, I typically view children born to unmarried parents to be a characteristic of the lower classes.
It’s very different in Europe, though; since there is more socio-economic equality in the Netherlands than in the United States, a Dutch child born to unmarried parents will have the same life outcomes as a Dutch baby born to married parents. In the States, a baby with unmarried parents will statisitcally have a poorer start on life than a baby with married parents. In fact, there are countries where over 50% of children are born to unmarried parents (Estonia and Iceland come to mind), and it’s a non-issue.
That last paragraph is very general, though. Look up the “marriage gap” in the United States – it’s pretty interesting stuff. 🙂
Post # 15
I’m going to be six months at my wedding. I’m not too concerned. We weren’t TTC, but it happened and it’ll be okay. Sections of my family are super religious (like everyone’s a preacher religious) and I’m not sure how they feel about it. But how they feel doesn’t really matter – it’s about how we feel, and we’re okay 🙂
I just hope I feel okay the day of the wedding. I’m hoping not to be that lucky 2% of women who experience morning sickness the entire 10 months 😡 haha.
Someone earlier mentioned stress, but I think your wedding day is only as stressful as you make it. Our wedding is going to be very casual, about 80 people. We’re getting married outside on the lake and I’m sort of at that point where as long as I marry my fiance and people are fed, I’m a-okay. We’re super low budget and the most stressful part of this wedding is probably going to be the fact that a couple family members and I are going to be cooking all the food for the reception. We’re going to have mostly picnic types food, though, so nothing too extravagant. Hamburgers and sandwiches, BBQ, etc. So I suppose you could say I don’t have very high expectations (and isn’t that the key to happiness in everything? lol).
Our honeymoon is also going to be low key – we live in Pennsylvania and Lancaster is only about two hours away at the most. So we’re going to travel through there and Bird-in-Hand, etc, stay in a B&B and go on covered bridge tours, picnics, wine tasting, stop at farm stands and farmer’s markets, and carriage rides in Amish country. Very relaxing stuff 🙂
Post # 16
We had DD1 in May 2010, bought our house Dec 2010, engaged Sept 2011, and our wedding was August 2012. We decided to NTNT in January 2012, and got pregnant March 2012 so I was 5 months pregnant at the wedding!
DH and I both could not care less about children out of wedlock or whatever, and our families couldn’t either. Our wedding was big, and it was beautiful, the ceremony was very significant, and although being married for real isn’t much different, we’re so happy to be husband and wife.