- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
A very close friend of mine (known her for 7years) is pregnant (due late ish march next year) and is on a bit of a downer. She feels like people have been judging her based on many things and Im trying to be suportive! I work closely with her and she is on a baby forum similar to weddingbee, she left work early today for a baby appionment (not a scan just a checkup) and left her computer on incase I get busy and need to serve two people at the same time (sounds silly but it happens when our clients dont remdmber there details or have never seen us before and are filling in forms). So this happened and she had left her baby site up on a thread that she created, which is very obviously about me.
It mentions that she feels that I think my relationship is “better” because im getting married (she isnt) and that my relationship is legit because I did things the “right” way. she wrote this yesterday (the day after we got back from my hens weekend)
Now I have mentioned on here that marriage before babies is important to me and FI but I dont think less of people in committed relationships doing the reverse, as long as there is a healthy stable relationship and the baby is loved and looked after thats all that is important.
I feel that some of this may be an over reaction but also because it seems a few people around her are getting married in the near future. In saying that I can completly understand how she feels this way, and would like to show her that Im not meaning to be an arsehole and that I dont feel im better. In fact if anything im jealous!!
She is off work tomorrow, and friday is my last day at work before I go on holidays before the wedding and I work in a different department to her so may not see her very much. Then I wont see her til the wedding. I had asked her to do a reading at our ceremony (months ago) so I was thinking maybe a gift that I can give to her at the reception with a card that says something about how proud I am of her and that I know she will be an amazing mummy?
I have noidea about what as a gift though? Or if this is stupid.
Also I know I shouldnt of read it!!!