Post # 1
I’m hoping someone can help me with our situation! FI and I were planning to get married Oct 19th this year, but found out about two weeks ago that I am 2 months pregnant. We are beyond thrilled and so are our families and closest friends! We want to move the wedding up to August 17th and make it way more intimate than what we originally planned (from 175 to only 75 people) but we are waiting until after the 12 week mark to make sure everything is ok especially since I am a high risk pregnancy. Hoping that we make it to 12 weeks, I want to send something out right away to all our invites letting them know of the change.
Is there a proper or best way to send out something to all of our STD invites telling them that we are expecting a baby and are opting for a smaller wedding with our immediate family and closest friends (basically the people that were in our bridal party only) without people feeling like we cut them?
Post # 3
I would say writing a letter (not email) to everybody. Explain to those that are no longer going to be invited to the wedding that you’re excited to announce your pregnancy. In light of this wonderful news, you and your fiance have decided to have a smaller, more intimate ceremony. Say something along the lines of “while we wish we could invite many more people, we’ve decided it’s best for our future and little baby X to cut back on the guest list.” Then say that you hope they understand the change in circumstances, and would love to celebrate the baby’s birth with them.
Post # 4
Secondly, I agree with the above poster, only to say that you can do the same thing in person or via a phone call when you’re telling family/friends about the baby. But I’m sure people will understand, weddings are expensive as are babies, and you have to prioritise.
Post # 5
+1 to PPs. I think that there is a section in Emily Post’s book on wedding etiquette about post-poning/cancelling a wedding. :}
Congrats on your lovely news!
Post # 6
send out a cancelation notice to everyone invited, then send out new invitations to your new event th those you wish to include.
Post # 7
@andielovesj: Agreed – cancel the wedding altogether, then send out new invites. Doing it the other way just too pointedly sends the message of, ‘You didn’t make our cut.’
Post # 8
Please don’t say ANYTHING about “cutting back the list” or “having a smaller wedding”. That’s SOOOOO rude, basically saying to your guests “you were always B list”
I agree with whoever say “cancel the wedding, then send new invites”